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OCTOBER – DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH ACTIVITIES

By Terry Loving

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Another foundation that shares the month of October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month – both causes are equally important.

The first awareness month was in Oct. 1987, which is the same year the national toll-free hotline began. The month was created out of the first Day of Unity observed in Oct. 1981 by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The Day of Unity grew into a week of activities to spread awareness of domestic violence.

This post is dedicated to listing events and links that highlight activities going on this month. For the most part, the events happen yearly. If there is an important event that you would like to add to this post, please feel free to do so in the comment section. The list will be updated when I find more useful links.

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REMEMBER AND ACT!

Click here to submit a name for the Remember My Name project electronically.

THE REMEMBER AND ACT VIRTUAL MEMORIAL: 1996-2008

NCADV honors those who have lost their lives to domestic violence. Please click here to enter the memorial.

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GRU, SafeHomes kick off Domestic Violence Awareness Month

“It’s so often that (domestic violence victims) leave everything behind,” she said. “We don’t want to just house them and put them back out there.”

“We want to give them the tools and the things they need to be independent and self-sufficient.”

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Save lives and help the environment–donate your unwanted cell phones and digital electronics to NCADV.

Accepted Items:
• Any cell phone in any condition and their accessories (most wanted: Iphones and Blackberries, but we will take what you have!)
• Laptops
• Mp3 Players
• Digital Cameras
• Video Game Systems

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Domestic Violence Awareness Month Kicks Off At LOVE Park

“City Council Members were presented with an award for their successful efforts to open another shelter to help the thousands in this situation. That 100 bed shelter is set to open in the spring. Verizon has donated equipment and funds over the years.”

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Domestic Violence Awareness Project Events

A listing of events in different areas of the US.

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Futures Without ViolenceMonth Events

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Good and bad news in Jacksonville area as Domestic Violence Awareness Month launches

Dan Scanlan: (904) 359-4549

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH EVENTS AND INFORMATION:

Here are some of the October events in the area to promote Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

■ A “Take Back the Night” March and Candlelight Vigil was Tuesday at the University of North Florida.

■ 19th annual Barbara Ann Campbell Memorial Breakfast, 7:30 to 9 a.m. Thursday, Hyatt Regency Jacksonville Riverfront Hotel, www.hubbardhouse.org.

Thrill the World, 9 p.m. Oct. 26, an attempt to break the record for zombies dancing to “Thriller,” www.thrilltheworld.com.

■ Quigley House Purple Ribbon Golf Tournament, 1 p.m. Oct. 17, Fleming Island Golf Club, 2260 Town Center Blvd., www.quigleyhouse.org.

■ Micah’s Place Appreciation and Awareness Breakfast, 7:30 a.m. Wednesday, Fernandina Beach Golf Course, 2800 Bill Melton Road, www.micahsplace.org.

■ Betty Griffin House Candlelight Vigil, 7 p.m. Thursday, St. Augustine’s Plaza de la Constitucion

■ Betty Griffin House Runway to Safety Fashion Show, 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. Oct. 29, Marriott Sawgrass, 1000 PGA Tour Blvd., Ponte Vedra Beach, www.bettygriffinhouse.org.

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Women In Distress of Broward County, INC

  • Clerk of Courts“Be Aware” event 11:30am – 1:00pm Topic: “Stalking” to be held in the Jury Room at  201 SE 6th St. for more information & RSVP please contact Tgreen@browardclerk.org.
  • Florida Bar Association – “Domestic Violence CLE” 8:15am – 4:45pm on Wednesday, October 9th at the Hyatt Pier 66 in Ft. Lauderdale. For more information contact the Florida Bar Association. Click here.
  • Jewish Federation of Broward – Luncheon & Fashion Show – Sunday, October 20th, 2013 for the 8th Annual KOLOT Luncheon & Fashion Show at the Signature Grand, Davie. Click here for more information.
  • NOVA University – Documentary Screening and Q&A titled “No Way Out But One” from 2:00 pm- 4:00 pm & 5:30 pm-7:30 pm on Wednesday, October 23rd in Knight Auditorium located in the DeSantis Building.  Click here for more information.
  • General Federation of Women’s Clubs – “United Against Domestic Violence” A Taste of Italy Event” to be held at Gino’s Italian Market, Friday, October 25th at 7:00 pm- 5729 Johnson Street, Hollywood, FL. Mozzarella making demo, pasta stations, wine tasting, and more. Click here for more Information.

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Events planned for Domestic Violence Awareness month

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Mecklenburg County  NC Women’s Commission

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VIGIL

The Annual Candlelight Vigil will be held 6:15p, Thurs., Oct. 24th, 2013 at John Dam Plaza in Richland, WA.

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VIGIL EVENTS

Candlelight Vigil  – Melrose Alliance Against Violence

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The Children’s Advocacy Center

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YWCA DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH ACTIVITIES

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Domestic Violence Vigil Set for October 8

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Empowerment Weekend Offers Domestic Violence Victims ‘SAFE’ Events This Month

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Walk a Mile in Her Shoes® Official Walk Event Calendar

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Delaware Coalition Against Domestic Violence

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Upcoming Trainings, Webinars and Events Around the Country

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Shelter organizes domestic violence awareness events

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South Carolina Department of Social Services

APPROVED BATTERER INTERVENTION PROGRAMS

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WOMEN AGAINST ABUSE – Advocacy In Action

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MEN-CAN © Rally hosted by Lutheran Settlement House

October 05, 2013 at 10:30 am – Freedom Christian Bible Fellowship Church at 6100 West Columbia Ave. Phila. PA, 19151

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SAFE HOMES of Orange County

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Posted by on October 2, 2013 in SPEAK UP! SPEAK OUT!

 

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THE STING OF VERBAL ABUSE




“And the tongue is a fire,

the very world of iniquity;

the tongue is set among our members as that which defiles the entire body,

and sets on fire the course of our life, and is set on fire by hell.”

(James 3:6-NASB)

My original intent was to create a PDF for downloads. However, that is proving to be time consuming, especially learning how to design a booklet at the same time. Sooooo, I am breaking up the project into sections to post on my web site.

The main reason that patience is not winning this endeavor, is the urgency of the information that is needed. It is my desire to quickly get this vital information to those who are suffering from verbal abuse, and don’t understand what is happening to them.

Each chapter when completed will have a title and link for your review. Eventually, it is my hope to have a finished product to download. I guess that is what happens to Writers who wear all the hats – writing, book design etc.

Anyone desiring this information on verbal abuse may click on the link below. This topic will be updated on a regular basis. There is so much information to share especially from the Word of God. So, please be patient as I gather everything that I can to help you.

If you care to comment on this information, you may come back to this post and have your say.

Here is the link:

http://spiritual-side-of-domestic-violence.org/id110.html

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UPDATE TO POST – 1/10/11

“JESUS WAS VERBALLY ABUSED”

http://spiritual-side-of-domestic-violence.org/id114.html

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UPDATE TO POST – 02/17/11

“WHAT IS VERBAL ABUSE?”

http://spiritual-side-of-domestic-violence.org/id115.html

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Posted by on January 4, 2011 in VERBAL ABUSE

 

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SPIRITUAL – BUT NOT RELIGIOUS

By Terry Loving

What does it mean when one claims to be “spiritual – but not religious?”

I get thousands of hits on my web site, http://www.spiritual-side-of-domestic-violence.org, most likely from people searching for “spiritual” – not necessarily “religious” solutions to domestic violence and abuse. The problem with searching for “spirituality” alone, is the danger of embracing beliefs that border on the occult, mysticism, nature worship and the like. Of these things, God condemns – and warns of the penalties for participation in the forbidden.

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It is possible as well that many are not searching for “salvation” as it would seem – but a way to live life on earth in a harmonious manner, while embracing inner peace. People are searching for a relationship with a “Higher Power,” but not necessarily the “God” that Christendom serves. Numerous self-help programs offer the opportunity to acknowledge a “Higher Power” of your choosing, without confessing the one and only True God of Heaven – but as you have come to know Him.

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Given the climate of American churches today, it is understandable that there is a mass exodus from “mainstream religion.” In many cases, people should depart from religious bodies that promote false doctrine, spousal abuse, homosexuality and whatever is contrary to “sound doctrine.” However, too many people depart from God Himself; based on the actions of the “hypocrites” they perceive to be false worshippers of the Almighty, therefore, as the saying goes, they “Throw the baby out with the bath water.” Out go religion, God, Jesus, and anything that appears to be connected with those “crazy” people called “Christians.”

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The Bible speaks of those who are “spiritual” as well as those who are “religious” – or identifying with a “religion.” In our society, many reject the idea of “religion,” especially since it relates to “organized” religion, church attendance, and identifying with a particular group in order to fulfill their “spiritual” needs.

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Of this mindset, there are numerous people who have been hurt by a particular house of worship in some way – emotional or sexual abuse – and they disconnect. On the other hand, we have the spectators. They hear of a church controversy, or read about it in the news and often say, “You see – that’s why I don’t go to church!” No, that is not the reason – you had no interest in the first place, and you were looking for an excuse to fortify your rebellion against God. So there!

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Pulpit Pimps – false preachers of the Gospel are making it very difficult for people to find God. Their desire for greed and power outweighs the salvation of lost souls, and many people can see through the sham, except those that continue to throw money at their feet. This is a classic case of the “blind leading the blind,” and we know a “ditch” awaits them.

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Yet still, is it possible to be a “spiritual” person apart from the Spirit? Is the “Higher Power” as one “comes to know Him” the same as knowing the Creator of life and the world itself? Do the “spiritual – but not religious” have a Savior? A Redeemer – One to seek in times of trouble? Do they have “faith” – if so, in what? Is it dangerous to seek spirituality on your own, making it up as you go along? Are the “spiritual – but not religious” folk just revising the “Burger King” religion – “Have it your way?” Or, are they truly seeking a connection with God, but rejecting mainstream religion?

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“A group of social scientists studied 346 people representing a wide range of religious backgrounds in an attempt to clarify what is implied when individuals describe themselves as “spiritual, but not religious.” Religiousness, they found, was associated with higher levels of interest in church attendance and commitment to orthodox beliefs. Spirituality, in contrast, was associated with higher levels of interest in mysticism, experimentation with unorthodox beliefs and practices, and negative feelings toward both clergy and churches.” 1

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While I am working towards my own conclusions on the matter – which will be posted at a later date – I would be grateful for any feedback presently. Please weigh in, and let me hear from anyone with an opinion concerning, “spiritual – but not religious.”

Thank you!

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1 http://www.iloveulove.com/spirituality/spiritualnotreligious.htm

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“Are there dangers in being ‘spiritual but not religious’?”

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Posted by on January 3, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

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Are Women In Your Church Silently Suffering?

By Terry Loving

“Make a chain: for the land is full of bloody crimes,
and the city is full of violence.”
(Ezekiel 7:23)


Harpo beat on Sophia, and Sophia beat on Harpo. They took turns pounding on one another, trying to get what they desired, one from the other.  Harpo wanted a beat down submissive wife, and Sophia wanted a “man who knows how to treat a lady.”

In the midst of the violence, they made babies that would witness the turmoil, and learn the cruel ways of their parents. When Harpo and Sophia weren’t fighting, they were in love; they made love. Eventually,  Harpo became frustrated with Sophia’s perceived defiance; he complained to his stepmother, Ms. Celie. Now Harpo didn’t come right out and ask Ms. Celie if he should hit his wife to “make her mind.” But Ms. Celie’s response to his complaint that, “She won’t listen,” was just what he wanted to hear – “Beat her.” And he did, over and over again.

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Ms. Celie’s advice to Harpo was that of pure ignorance.  At the time, she may have thought that life was this way.  In order to keep a woman in line, “Beat her.”  It took many years of her own abuse, and the loss of her family through separation to realize that this was not how her life, or any woman’s life was meant to be. Ms. Celie was forced to marry a man that she didn’t love at the age of fourteen.  Sadly, he didn’t love her as well, for he really wanted to marry her younger sister Nettie.

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Her husband’s disappointment led to him beating, sexually, verbally and physically abusing Ms. Celie for many years. As if that weren’t enough, Albert disrespected his wife by allowing his mistress to live in their home. Through it all, Ms. Celie developed and maintained a deep faith in God. As she narrated the story of her life, she began each episode with, “Dear God.”

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Many women in our churches today are calling out to God for an end to their abuse. Perhaps you are one of them. You sit faithfully, anxiously waiting every Sunday for the Minister, song leaders, Deacons, ANYBODY – to speak out against domestic violence. But it never happens.

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One day, your Minister makes the statement that, “A two-hundred pound man beating on a 100-pound woman is shameful and should not be!” Your trembling hands grip the edge of the cushioned pew, and you silently think, “Thank God!” You hold your breath with anticipation, praying that today is your day for deliverance. You are thanking God in your heart that someone finally has the courage to speak out against Christian husbands who beat their wives, especially yours.

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Your heart is pounding wildly within your small frame. Beads of perspiration cover your forehead as you wait to hear the final verdict, “DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS A SIN, AND IT WILL NOT BE TOLERATED IN THIS CHURCH!” The words go unspoken.  The minister is angry, but just for a moment. He changes the subject. You suspect that he wants badly to say more about domestic violence, but you conclude that he doesn’t know how.

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Suddenly, you feel sick inside, let down. You avoid eye contact with the perpetrator sitting next to you with his arm around your shoulder. He is sitting there as if all is well with his soul, your abuser, your tormentor; your Christian husband.  During church services, he is perceived as a devout Christian, a man who loves God and his family.  But you and your children know the real truth.

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He is your Harpo, trying to beat you into submission whenever he thinks that you are out of line.  After church service, you walk to your car praying,  “Dear God, let me die before I reach home.”  Your abuser is showing signs of anger as he squeezes your arm and asks you quietly, “Did you tell anyone?” His expression and tone suspects betrayal, even when you sadly reply, “No, I didn’t say a word.”

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Domestic violence in and out of the church should not be tolerated. As you read and understand more about domestic violence, you will begin to see it for the evil that it is. You will also realize that the abuse you suffer is not your fault. Being battered is not God’s will for your life. In fact, those who practice violence in the home know exactly what they are doing.  Most of all, you will know that violence is a choice, and it is solely about power and control.

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Posted by on December 26, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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When It’s Time To Leave

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No one can tell you when you have had enough. When the day dawns on your awakening, and you gather your strength to leave your life of violence, you know deep down you must act quickly.

Your heart is pounding, adrenaline is flowing, and your fragmented thoughts are trying to put together a perfect plan of action. It may take days, weeks, months, even years to plan your escape, but escape you must.

If you have children, their welfare is also a part of your safety plan to leave your hellish home of violence. In your mind, every thing must be planned perfectly in order for you to move forward towards a life of peace.

Unfortunately, not all of our plans in life work according to our wills. We may choose one course of action, only to find that there are obstacles in our way. Many women view obstacles as a sign to endure domestic violence until their plans are flawless. Life doesn’t work that way – there will always be challenges to overcome.

If you have devised an escape plan that will at least afford you safety, there are other resources that are available to aid you with your new life plan. Safely removing yourself from an abusive situation is the first priority. Once you are safe, there are agencies that will lend a helping hand.

You may have to change  your standard of living temporarily, but that’s OK. Sometimes you have to take a step backwards to move forward. Starting over can be a daunting experience, however, compared to a life of misery and abuse, change is the beginning of a life of peace and security.

I urge you to check out my web site, especially the link at the end of this post. This link will connect you with very important, and helpful resources to assist you with starting over. With the help of God, you can make a new life, and hopefully, you will include God in all of your plans.

“May He grant you your heart’s desire and fulfill all your plans. May there be shouts of joy when we hear the news of your victory, flags flying with praise to God for all that He has done for you. May He answer all your prayers!”

Psalms 20:4-5 (Living Bible)

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“…be strong and very courageous…..”

Joshua 1:7

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Posted by on February 1, 2010 in LEAVING ABUSE

 

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