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EDDIE LONG SAGA – TRUTH SHALL PREVAIL

By Terry

New American Standard Bible (©1995)

“As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive.”

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Just when people thought the Eddie Long saga was going away – the pot starts a slow boil – promising to reach a scorching heat. Personally, I was hoping that mediation did not have the last word. I welcome this new stirring of the pot, and give God praise that He gave Jamal Parris and Spencer LeGrande courage to take a stand. I pray for their safety though, for there are many Eddie Long worshipers who hate them for exposing this evil. If it is God’s plan to use what happened to them to make a difference in this world, nothing will stop them – and no one will harm them.

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For those naysayers who thought this travesty was about four low-life men extorting money from an honorable man of God – well, I guess you have to rethink your position – if you are big enough to own the truth of the matter – especially now that there is a “fifth accuser.” The money is no longer an issue, two victims of Eddie Long are not only willing to risk a law suit – they express disdain for their new-found riches – and would gladly give it all back. Why? Because the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth so help Eddie Long has not been revealed.

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I can appreciate how Jamal feels, as he has expressed the most inner rage and pain. Your head tells you the perpetrators are to blame, but your soul screams guilt that the victim does not own. Sexual abuse puts a stink on you that you can never wash off. You have feelings that you can name, but don’t understand.  And sometimes you feel, but haven’t a clue what you are feeling. The anger can fuel you to seek justice for the injustice, do self-harm to make the pain stop, seek revenge, or lash out at other innocent persons just to feel some kind of relief. The extreme solution is to take your own life.

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 As far as the money and the closing of the case via mediation goes:

“It’s just not enough anymore. I thought I could cover the pain up. I thought I could move, start over and everything will go away. I was terribly wrong,” Parris said.

“Parris, 24, still bears the scars of abuse he says he suffered at the hands of Long. He is angry and emotional and wants Long to know what he’s done to him.”

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Again, I can relate. The horrible adults that scarred my life are dead. I cannot confront my parents, or my mother’s abusive boyfriends. I sought positive outlets for the pain, after living years with the negative self-destructive results of betrayal. You cannot “cover the pain up.” Some people get stuck in various ways, and cannot move on. There is no starting over. There is no square one to go back to. There is no starting point where you can erase the evil done to you, and regain what was stolen from you – your innocence. You don’t get that back – ever. You can learn to live in spite of the pain, but you never completely heal to the point of feeling whole. A part of you will always feel lost.

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The settlement money did not put this issue to rest like many people hoped it would. Why? Because there is a burning truth to be told – not so much for the airing of dirty laundry, but for the saving of other innocent lives. Can anyone refute the possibility that God is at work in this situation, and that He desires Eddie Long’s wrongdoing to be exposed once and for all? Understand this, where there are five victims, there most likely are more. If we truly believe that God works for our good, then it is quite possible that other young people will be spared the sting of Eddie Long’s alluring sexually perverted snares.

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My mother has been dead since 1984 – I still get angry. When the hidden memories finally come to surface, my pain and anger are rekindled. Even when you don’t want to think back and rehash those painful times, you have no control over when they are triggered to move to the forefront of your mind. Sometimes you may even feel like you are going insane. This is how Jamal feels right now. It isn’t a strange thing that he contemplated suicide. It is God’s grace that kept and will keep him alive, and give him strength to go on. I know – He did it for me.

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Many ignorant people believe that Jamal was showing his true colors when he got arrested. Jamal along with the rest of the accusers of Long, were referred to by one commenter as “clowns.” It is easy to sit back and judge the outcome of sexual exploitation – even dismiss the behavior of those sinned against with criticism. However, unless you have walked in the shoes of innocent children – groomed by the devil’s angels, and betrayed to exchange their innocence for love – you should just be quiet. When innocent youth is interrupted by the wiles of sick demented sexual predators, innocence is forever lost – never to be regained. If you ever watch the movie “Girl Interrupted,” you will understand how devastating to a young soul sexual abuse, or any type of abuse can be.

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God used Queen Esther to save the Jews from annihilation. Divine providence placed her in a high position “for such a time as this.”

“We are prone to shrink from services that are attended with peril or loss. But when the cause of Christ and his people demand it, we must take up our cross, and follow him. When Christians are disposed to consult their own ease or safety, rather than the public good, they should be blamed.” 1

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“There is wise counsel and design in all the providences of God, which will prove that they are all intended for the good of the church. We should, every one, consider for what end God has put us in the place where we are, and study to answer that end: and take care that we do not let it slip. Having solemnly commended our souls and our cause to God, we may venture upon his service. All dangers are trifling compared with the danger of losing our souls. But the trembling sinner is often as much afraid of casting himself, without reserve, upon the Lord’s free mercy, as Esther was of coming before the king. Let him venture, as she did, with earnest prayer and supplication, and he shall fare as well and better than she did. The cause of God must prevail: we are safe in being united to it.”

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Instead of screaming “Touch not my anointed,” the people of God should be fasting and praying for truth to prevail and justice to be served on behalf of the afflicted. How do you know that God Himself isn’t saying to Newbirth Church – “How dare you?” They applauded their leader when he led them to believe that he had “five rocks” which he would use to fight the serious allegations against him. He hasn’t thrown a rock yet. Instead, took the path of least resistance through mediation. And now he wants to sweep it all under the rug and live his life like nothing happened – like no one was hurt – but they were – deeply.

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People may view Jamal’s anger as a catalyst for revenge. But that is not the case. The money should have satisfied that need – but did it? No. There is a bigger force at work here. Open your spiritual eyes and see the hand of God. Did God cause innocent children to be sexually exploited and betrayed so He could show how powerful He is? God forbid. The devil’s signature is stamped boldly upon such evil. Our heavenly Father takes the damaged souls unto Him, and applies healing in ways that no man can name. He won’t necessarily remove the “thorns” in our flesh. But He is faithful in supplying the spiritual balm to cover our wounds so that we can carry on in His name.

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“Do not rejoice when your enemy falls, and do not let your heart be glad when he stumbles; Or the LORD will see it and be displeased, and turn His anger away from him.

Proverbs 24:17-18

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When Eddie Long, and those who operate like he does come to judgment – in this life – we are not to rejoice. It may be tempting to stand up and cheer like his congregation did. But God would not be pleased with that. He loves Eddie Long and all of us, although He hates the sin that we so boldly flaunt in His face. Who is to say that Eddie Long’s sins have not finally “found him out?” God is not mocked.

New American Standard Bible (©1995)

Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.

Galatians 6:7

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Jamal Parris and Spencer LeGrande have a chance to release years of pain, at least to the point of being able to move on. They should write their book, in spite of people saying “it is all about the money.” I don’t believe that. There are many painful situations I am writing about in my book concerning my mother. And there are times that I make the decision that it will be for my eyes only. Even writing down the events is embarrassing, and I feel ashamed – not that the shame belongs to me. I guess the shame represents the fact that it was my life, and I often wished I have lived another. Will I ever decide to publish it – I don’t know.  It is difficult to write the sordid details, let alone know that someone besides God, I and the perpetrators will know the truth. So, I really don’t know what will happen to my book. I will let God decide.

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“We weren’t anything more than kids who went to the church to learn about God. What trapped us is we were just addicted to the lifestyle. We were addicted to the love that we got,” LeGrande said.

There are countless children who may have heard that God is a “father to the fatherless.” They walk through the doors of the church house expecting to be received for who they are, and find the love of a “spiritual” father, and family to fill the void in their lives. What these young men found instead was betrayal. If you cannot be safe in the “house of God,” where can you be safe?

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And here is another thing – the “age of consent” in Georgia is “16.” What 16-year old do you know that is ready for adult responsibilities, especially those that come along with having sex? In the case of Eddie Long, not only did he groom four impressionable adolescents to satisfy his sexual perversions – he disposed of them when he had no further need for them. Here’s the thing, Long was not interested in a long term, possible complicated relationship with either of these young men. If he wanted to deal with relationship dynamics, all he had to do was go home – he has a wife. He groomed play things, fantasies, and boy toys for his perverted entertainment. When the older ones got older, he traded them in for new, and younger recruits.

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As I studied the “age of consent” concerning other countries and traditions, I am convinced that many of the age levels were set by sexually perverted old men who desired to have sex with young children. Some cultures marry off daughters once they have their menstrual cycle – how sick is that? But, that is another topic for another time. The age of consent that is lower than “18” should be changed.

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I say to Jamal Parris and Spencer LeGrande – write your story. If you feel compelled by God to do so – obey. If money was a factor, you would be satisfied with what you have. I do not believe that your desire to write a book is about money – I believe that God will use your pain to help others who are struggling as you are – as I am – as so many more will.

To Eddie Long I say as God says – “REPENT!”

New American Standard Bible (©1995)

“Therefore repent and return, so that your sins may be wiped away, in order that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord;

Acts 3:19

1 http://bible.cc/esther/4-14.htm

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Why people stick by scandal-plagued pastors

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UPDATE – 10/7/11

Eddie Long, New Birth seek to recoup settlement money

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UPDATE 10/20/11

Bishop Eddie Long accused in investment scam lawsuit

“Ten parishioners lost more than a million dollars after investing in a company Bishop Eddie Long endorsed, according to a lawsuit filed Wednesday in DeKalb County state court.”

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Update 11-11-11

I-Team: Fifth Bishop Eddie Long Accuser Speaks

“I am not the fifth accuser. I’m Centino Kemp, I didn’t accuse nobody of nothing,” he said.

So, why was he in the case? Less than three weeks after the Bishop Long lawsuits were filed, Centino Kemp says he tried to kill himself. He was admitted at the DeKalb Mental Health Center. He told therapists he had been sexually involved with Bishop Eddie Long for years.

“I was in a dark place, I can say that,” Kemp said.

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UPDATE 12-03-11

Bishop Eddie Long’s wife puts divorce back on table

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Bishop Long responds to wife’s divorce filing

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Eddie Long Takes Leave From Atlanta Megachurch Due to ‘Family Issues’

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BISHOP EDDIE LONG MUST GO!

A COPY OF THE LETTER THAT PROTESTORS ARE HANDING OUT

http://www.pimppreacher.com/Bishop-Eddie-Long-Steps-Down.html

PimpPreacher.com 12/04/2011

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Megachurch’s future uncertain after pastor leaves

“Marshall said the church can be healed, but also thinks Long needs to step down permanently.”

“All things can be renewed, but I think he needs to leave,” she said. “Why continue to lead people when you are being dishonest? It shames the church, it shames the followers, and it shames him.”

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Accuser in Bishop Eddie Long Sex Scandal Pens Tell-All Book, Screenplay

Centino Kemp, the fifth accuser in the Bishop Eddie Long sex scandal, has written a book about his affair with the megachurch pastor, titling the work The First Lady. The book is co-authored by T. Benson Glover.

He describes the book as a story of “love, lust, power, extravagant living and travel, betrayal, deceit, rape, down-low homosexual lifestyle, molestation, church corruption, secret societies, suicide attempts and religion.”

“The book describes the alleged behaviors of Long that eventually led to the sex scandal that rocked the southern church and gospel community. “The First Lady,” chronicles the incidents that came out of the control and power that this Bishop had over a young boy and how the abuse of that power formed this young mans life. It goes on to talk about the scars that the accuser will carry with him for the rest of his life after trusting a man who allegedly did these things to him under the pretense of God’s work.”

http://elev8.com/news/orethawinston/eddie-long-first-lady-tells-all-about-sex-abuse/

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12/29/11 UPDATE

Eddie Long’s New Birth Christian Academy Closes Down

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Parents scramble to find new schools for former New Birth students

“Channel 2 Action News reporter Jodie Fleischer says that now some parents are left wondering what will happen to the fees and tuition they’ve already paid. The school charged between $6,000 and $8,000 per student, per year in tuition and fees. Some of which is non-refundable, according to the church website.”

“She believes recent scandals involving Long, pastor of the New Birth Missionary Baptist Church that houses the school, drove families away. She says the school only had about 100 students left this year.”

“I believe that this last straw with the divorce, the sealed settlement, it just does not look good. I really believe people continued to take their children out as each allegation unfolded,” she said.

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Eddie Long’s Wife Calls Off Divorce

 Updated: Friday, 17 Feb 2012, 6:03 PM EST

Published : Friday, 17 Feb 2012, 4:42 PM

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Bishop Eddie Long dies of aggressive form of cancer, church says

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New details released for Bishop Eddie Long memorial service

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EDDIE LONG SAGA – WHAT ABOUT THE VICTIMS?

By Terry Loving

New American Standard Bible (©1995)
Vindicate me, O God, and plead my case against an ungodly nation; O deliver me from the deceitful and unjust man!

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Concerning this Eddie Long/Creflo Dollar saga, there is one thing that screams volumes – and very few are catching it. There is much said concerning false prophets, pedophiles, spiritual immorality and more – and yet – not much attention is flowing towards the four young men – groomed from boyhood – deceived by “Daddy Long” – sexually abused, and damaged for life. Why is that? Like many others, I expressed my disdain for both Long and Dollar, but now, I want to dedicate this post to the forgotten.

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There are numerous Christians who will go to war to defend these two “anointed men of God.” Cough, cough – excuse me, almost got chocked there. The spiritual spotlight should shine brightly upon these charlatans, but the Balm of Gilead must be applied to the wounded. Too many have suffered church and pastor abuse, and they are quickly forgotten as if the sins were theirs and theirs alone. In the movie, BLISS – a young girl was raped, and her family decided to kill her because she didn’t name her rapist. Her fear was founded, for it was a family member that raped her. Nonetheless, the rape was labeled as “her sin.” Her family and the whole village turned against her – she became an outcast. Why when a woman is raped, the crime has to be “her sin?” Why are those who are victimized raped again by public and familial opinions? I just don’t get that.

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Reading the statements in defense of Long and Creflo made me shudder. How could any rational, intelligent child of God defend these two? I find the lack of empathy for the four young men betrayed by Eddie Long – among others – horrendous. Let’s check out some of these “un-altered”comments concerning Eddie Long and his crony:

“That’s why i said “if he did commit the error” we have no reason to prove he did, but just in case he did, there’s no sin God can’t forgive.”

“To all that are criticizing this man with these religious web names remember what the bible says. He that is without sin let him cast the first stone. Bishop Eddie Long has not been convicted yet. Where is the love and the Heart of God. We as believers are so fast to judge instead of praying first to hear what God has to say. No i don’t condone sin especially when it is a leader,but remember we are flesh and blood and we all need deliverance from something. There is always room to grow. So people of the most high God pray, pray, and pray hard this could be you or someone close that you know and look up to. Pray 4 his members and his family instead of judging”

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“There’s no sin God can’t forgive.”

“Good Biblical teaching with a firm hand” is what created this mess, and continues to destroy lives.”

“We have to wait to confirm if he did it. And if he did, there is room, for repentance. Isn’t it?”

“innocent til proven guilty.  He without sin. Any kind of sin. Pray for him.”

“I am praying for Long because either way “when you see your brother at fault, go restore such a one and pray for him.”

“The bible says you will know my people by their fruits. I have known Eddie for years since 1995. He is an amazing human being.  He has done more for this community then any other single person I can name. The people he helps on a daily basis is amazing. Unless you know this man stop talking and sit back and watch God at work. Eddie must go through this trial just like Job; and just like Job he will come out bigger and better than before. This process is weeding out the true and the fakes.”

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“Do you have any proof he did it?”

“Does it matter what he says? He only owes God and the courts an explanation. As far as I know he has yet to be convicted and in this country “we are presumed innocent ……not guilty until all facts are in. Besides my Bible says “let he who is without sin cast the first stone!” If you were accused I am certain you would like the same courtesy!”

“The preacher in the city here, he still gon’ go to Heaven. He’s cleansed; he’s alright. And if you from that church that you know I’m talking about and you trying to join here, I don’t want you to join here. You need to go and join where you ‘spose to be.” (Creflo)

“PLEASE BE CAREFUL PUTTING YOUR MOUTH ON PASTOR’S OR GOD’S ANOINTED… NONE OF US ARE QUALIFIED TO JUSGE (Judge) – ANY MAN WALKING THIS EARTH…”

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“I Think that he may have tried to show these young men a different side other than poverty and they turned it on him. Even if what they said is true there is a bigger picture that people are missing. There is a better way to get to the truth other than putting it out like they did, this world is already lacking faith and the people that are young in their faith my have lost it and now these young men will be held responsible for the souls lost because of this. Question, hat ever happened to innoccent til proven guilty!!!”

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“Its is wrong to condemn and judge him (Bishop) but he should admit his guilt and let the congregration pray for him and embrace him once again as their leader.”

“Those young men better realize what they are doing; first of all they will go to jail for false accusations if they are lying for whatever the reason and then the Bible say’s “touch not my annointed and do my prophet know harm!” So all stand to be punished in some way if they have deceived the other in any way…”

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“I understand what Dr.Dollar is doing.Any mature Christian also knows, he has scripture to back him up. The man is staying in the love of God walking in love, love covers a multtitude of sins and staying out of judgement.Judgement is darkness and what he is telling those people if they are leaving out of offense and strife he does not want that mess in his church.If the Lord has told them to leave Bishop Longs church then fine, but the man is keeping himself in the light LOVE.He is doing exactly what Jesus would do and say, Let him who has not sin cast the first stone. That woman looked up and there was no one standing there but she and Jesus.Deal with your sin leave Bishop Long and Dr.Dollar to God be wise to do so.”

“I couldn’t tell you if he is, or if he isn’t, but what I can say is we all believe what we want to believe whether it’s innocent or guilty, God in “His own wisdom will reveal in His timing”. Until God says, I’m believing my pastor- who said he didn’t do this.”

“I feel its between Him and God….If those four guys took the money and ran so be it, God knows!!! How far do they think will get…….”

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THESE TWO I LIKED THE MOST

“Ultimately, however, I am not so very much concerned with what started the mess–sexuality–or what will fix the mess–good biblical teaching or whatever–but that an abuser is allowed a position of authority of a group of people to continue preying on them. It’s like sending a battered wife back to her husband. Just wrong on every level.”

“I find it funny that people are treating him as though he is the pitiable party. What about the children? If it is true, how many more are out there, afraid to speak up because of people like you? You know, those who won’t believe them. Those who try to put this shield of protection over a grown man, while children remain vulnerable. That is why sexual abuse victims rarely speak out. They become the attacked, yet again.”

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It is my sincere hope that the four victims will use some of their riches to seek counseling. Obviously, they may need to seek help from secular agencies, as the church does not seem to understand what really happened to them. Many will view their settlement reward as a source of healing, but the money is just a band-aid. Children who are sinned against carry an unspeakable burden for the rest of their lives. No amount of money will heal the hole in their souls.

With the exception of the two comments that I like, most seem to view Long as the victim – and those who were hurt by Long – well, if they hadn’t come forth with exposure, then the sheep could have comfortably worshipped Eddie Long – but now many are spiritual nomads.

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One commenter stated …”now these young men will be held responsible for the souls lost because of this.” Huh???

OK, so let me get this straight. If they had not exposed Eddie Long for the sexual predator that he is, would all be well in Christendom? More specifically, would all have been well at New Birth – or any church where these monsters are and should be exposed? Silence is the biggest sin Christians will have to answer for.

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Many victims of rape, incest, domestic violence and abuse take their pain to their graves. And in most cases, who can blame them? Why expose yourself to ridicule and being victimized all over again? Too many people want to hide the ugly side of life, and act like it doesn’t exist. That is the main cause of our churches failing our communities, not these young men who spoke out and sought justice. The Black community especially is guilty of turning a blind eye to sins against the vulnerable, instead of speaking out and protecting those Jesus died for. He died for all mankind, not just the pulpit pimps that are sexually exploiting, and messing up your kids.

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To the four brave souls that exposed Eddie Long – I commend you. Please get some help with sorting out the confusion within your souls – and pray to God that you do not in turn become the hunter. I cannot tell you what to do with our wealth, but understand that things will not bring you comfort. When you are alone with yourself, you will still face the giants that seek to destroy you. Evil does not leave you alone.

To all of the misguided Christians that defend Long and his pal Creflo – may God open your spiritual eyes to see the truth. You have been blinded by your devotion to your pastors, and you will give an account to God someday. To those who clapped when Creflo insulted the people of God, you will reap what you have sown. Imagine how those hurting sheep felt when you joined your pastor in condemning their actions – shame on all of you. Please read the Bible for yourselves.

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To the courageous souls that “expose the deeds of darkness,” don’t stop. This is our duty, our God given right and we should clearly understand that we are at war with the forces of evil – wickedness in high places. Jesus already won the battle, but the fight isn’t over yet.

Peace

LET US NOT FORGET THEIR NAMES

Jamal Paris

JAMAL’S BLOG – a work in progress so please bookmark.

MY STOLEN INNOCENCE

Anthony Flagg

Maurice Robinson

Spencer LeGrande

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Why didn’t Jamal just tell Long to stop what he was doing? Because, Jamal says, “you’re afraid to lose your father. You’re afraid that if you tell him ‘No,’ the support that he gives to yourself … the fact that you finally have a father that you always wanted for and always dreamed of, will just walk away from you if you don’t give him what you want. So you end up turning into something you never thought you’d be.”

And: “You have to understand, this man manipulated us from childhood. This was our father and we loved him. This man turned his back on us when he had no more need for us. That’s not a father. That’s a predator. … [Long] is not a man, [he is] a monster.”

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UPDATE:

Bishop Eddie Long Had Fifth Accuser in Sexual Misconduct Lawsuit

“Centino Kemp – Sources say Kemp joined in the settlement talks after he heard about the other young men’s lawsuits and though he never sued, he became a part of the final settlement.

“One source says Centino Kemp, who was raised in the Bahamas, met Bishop Eddie Long years ago during a visit to New Birth while he was a teenage student in a Florida college. The relationship meant enough for him to tattoo Eddie Long’s name on his wrist, followed by the words, “Never a Mistake, Always a Lesson.

FOX 5 I-Team exclusive report

Updated: Wednesday, 27 Jul 2011, 9:12 PM EDT
Published : Wednesday, 27 Jul 2011, 5:58 PM EDT

I-Team Preview: Bishop Eddie Long Lawsuit – The Untold Story

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Eddie Long’s ‘Wildchild’ gets paid for being bad

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Bishop Eddie Long, and New Birth Loyalists…

“Yes congregation, I blame you. You don’t worship God, you worship a self-loathing gay man.  Own it New Birth.”

“Five different men have come forward with intimate sexual details. Accept it like the sun coming up in the morning. That Brother is gay.”

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Charges dropped against Eddie Long burglary suspect

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I-Team: Fifth Bishop Eddie Long Accuser Speaks

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CHRISTIAN CHURCH – JUDGE OR NOT TO JUDGE

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CAN WE REALLY BLAME FALSE PROPHETS?

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LITHONIA: Eddie Long’s wife pushing divorce petition through

Long’s petition added that there was “no hope of reconciliation of the parties” and that it was “in the best interest of all parties concerned that this marriage be terminated.”  

She asked for “temporary and permanent alimony,” “an equitable division of the marital property” and “separate, non-marital property.”

In a statement issued hours earlier Friday morning, Vanessa Long said:

After a great deal of deliberation and prayer, I have decided to terminate my marriage to Bishop Eddie L. Long. Accordingly, I authorized my attorneys to file for divorce on December 1, 2011.

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Eddie Long taking time off from US megachurch

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Atlanta named to list of ‘kinkiest’ places in America

“According to Alternet, Atlanta is the fifth “kinkiest” town in the United States, and according to the list, it is a place that can show anyone who wants to find something on the seamier side of life can find what they want – and based on information Alternet points to, plenty of people in Atlanta are looking.”

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“It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in man.”

Psalm 118:8

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BISHOP EDDIE LONG MUST GO!

A COPY OF THE LETTER THAT PROTESTORS ARE HANDING OUT

http://www.pimppreacher.com/Bishop-Eddie-Long-Steps-Down.html

PimpPreacher.com 12/04/2011

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Megachurch’s future uncertain after pastor leaves

“Marshall said the church can be healed, but also thinks Long needs to step down permanently.”

“All things can be renewed, but I think he needs to leave,” she said. “Why continue to lead people when you are being dishonest? It shames the church, it shames the followers, and it shames him.”

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Accuser in Bishop Eddie Long Sex Scandal Pens Tell-All Book, Screenplay

Centino Kemp, the fifth accuser in the Bishop Eddie Long sex scandal, has written a book about his affair with the megachurch pastor, titling the work The First Lady. The book is co-authored by T. Benson Glover.

He describes the book as a story of “love, lust, power, extravagant living and travel, betrayal, deceit, rape, down-low homosexual lifestyle, molestation, church corruption, secret societies, suicide attempts and religion.”

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Bishop Eddie Long’s Alleged Sex Scandal Victim Centino Kemp Reveals Suicide Attempt

Kemp said his alter-ego called “Wild Child Kemp” saved his life by convincing the young man to stay alive, when Kemp attempted to commit suicide three weeks after lawsuits against Long were filed in Atlanta.

He was admitted to the DeKalb Mental Health Center, Fox 5 reports. He reportedly told therapists he had been “sexually and physically abused for six years by Pastor E. Long.”

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Eddie Long’s New Birth Christian Academy Closes Down

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Eddie Long’s Wife Calls Off Divorce

 Updated: Friday, 17 Feb 2012, 6:03 PM EST
Published : Friday, 17 Feb 2012, 4:42 PM EST

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Bishop Eddie Long Accuser Centino Kemp To Release Tell-All Book

Centino Kemp, the fifth accuser who came forward in the Bishop Eddie Long sex scandal of alleged affairs with teen boys nearly three years ago, will release a tell-all book on Valentine’s Day, according to the Georgia Voice.   2013

Centino First Lady Book

First Lady     (CLICK ON LINK TO GO TO AMAZON TO REVIEW BOOK)

Bishop Eddie Long dies of aggressive form of cancer, church says

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New details released for Bishop Eddie Long memorial service

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Posted by on June 26, 2011 in WOLVES IN SHEEPS CLOTHING

 

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“Creflo Dollar Defends Eddie Long; Rebukes Unforgiving Followers”

By Terry Loving

Creflo – if Eddie Long is innocent, what is there to forgive?

New American Standard Bible (©1995)
“Woe to the shepherds who are destroying and scattering the sheep of My pasture!” declares the LORD.

“They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace.”  (Jeremiah 6:14)

“He had a wreck but here’s the good news…he had insurance!  [Jesus]

You clap your hands now but let me have a wreck. I wanna see how many of yall NEGROS still gon’ be here…How many of yall precious saints of God…”1

The good ole’ boy’s network is alive and thriving.

If Creflo Dollar wants to defend Eddie Long – that is his business. I could care less about either one of them. The first time I had heard both of them speak at the invitation of friends, they each preached false doctrine concerning money. So, tsk, they are in the same money grubbing boat as far as I am concerned.

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Creflo’s defense of a man accused of sexual immorality – with young men no less – is appalling. Especially since he turned away hurting people who left lies and deception – unknowingly leaving the frying pan for the fire. Both of these false preachers are arrogant, and lack true spiritual knowledge coupled with humility.

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The hellish attitude that Creflo spewed forth to those who came to his church for comfort is sickening. Creflo called Eddie Long his “friend,” and those who departed lies, deception, sexual allegations, and much darkness – “hypocrites.” He “rebuked” hurting people who were duped, and financially raped – though willingly – for separating themselves from ungodliness on behalf of their spiritual leader.

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“Half the harm that is done in this world
Is due to people who want to feel important
They don’t mean to do harm ­
But the harm does not interest them.
Or they do not see it, or they justify it
Because they are absorbed in the endless struggle To think well of themselves.”

T. S. Eliot

http://www.narcissism101.com/

NARCISSISM

Inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love;vanity.
Psychoanalysis – erotic gratification derived from admiration of one’s own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development.

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Noted, Creflo described the abuse of spiritual authority by way of sexual perversion, gifts, trips, money, and an expensive settlement as a “wreck.” A wreck Creflo? What Long was accused of was no fender-bender, crash, smash up, or accident Creflo – this situation is about beguiling four young men – who were boys first – and setting them up for sexual favors. Those who defend Long overlook the fact that some mother’s child was sexually, and spiritually violated.

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This is the same mentality that many abused women face when confiding in their pastors. Let me ask you this Creflo – are abused women “self-righteous,” and “judgmental” for leaving violence and abuse? You are trying to guilt the former members of New Birth into returning to unrighteousness, much like many pastors who don’t know how to deal with domestic violence, or counsel out of ignorance. Sure, all Christians have “wrecks” from time to time, but the flock is not commanded to care for themselves. God provides leaders who have spiritual principles to abide by, to present themselves as a standard by which the congregation measures spiritual progress and holiness. We have forgiveness of sins through REPENTANCE!

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Now, there are certain things that I’ve grown from and should never do but if I have a wreck? I’m still gon’ go to heaven. Now YOU might mess some stuff up based on how you treat me.

The preacher in the city here, he still gon’ go to Heaven. He’s cleansed; he’s alright. And if you from that church that you know I’m talking about and you trying to join here, I don’t want you to join here. You need to go and join where you ‘spose to be.”

And what arrogance to tell God’s people, “I don’t want you here.” Personally, I believe you did them a favor – those who were hurt by your conceited rebuke – and left your church to find a true man of God. Since when, if your church is truly the Lord’s church – do you have the right to turn away souls that seek to worship Christ? Jesus said, “Come unto Me…” and you are telling people to “Go away!” Some of those very hurt people will turn away from Christ all together, all in the name of you defending your “friend” – another lost soul in the pulpit.

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Further, Creflo, I sincerely hope you come across this post. You go on to say, “You need to go and join where you supposed to be…” Now doesn’t that sound like a pastor telling an abused woman to go back to “where you ‘spose to be” – with your abusive head of the household? This attitude is no different from the pastors that admonish women to “submit more,” “cook better,” “have more sex,” and just “shut up!” Abused women have been counseled to “stop pushing his buttons” – and go back to ungodliness and shame.

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Creflo also stated, “Look at how you handled it. That’s the hypocrisy of the whole thing; like you was flawless.” He didn’t come right out and say that he was addressing New Birth members, but we all know who he was talking down to. You got it wrong Dolla-Dolla, look how Eddie Long “handled it.” He lied to his flock, and gave them a snow job about fighting the allegations, and now he is arrogantly asking for more money. Oh, and plans to set up more churches. He spent millions of tithes – hush money – to make his sins disappear from the spotlight. It won’t happen. You can argue that Long spent his own money, or “love offerings” to pay the four accusers – but where did the money come from in the first place? Hhhhhmmmm.

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Here in the South, Christians throw that word “anointed” around too much for my taste. But that’s just me. Of Long, Creflo also says, “That preacher’s still anointed to do what he was called to. He just had a wreck.” And you are…..? First of all, not all in the pulpit were “called.” And a settlement without a legal fight, not that he could not afford it – is an admission of being too close to the fire, if not right in the midst of the flames. No truly innocent person would give away millions of dollars without a fight, especially being wrongly accused of sexual perversion – an abomination.

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“And I just can’t believe that people would leave their preacher because he had a wreck, instead of praying for him!”

Who is to say they were not, and still praying for their preacher Creflo? They were praying that the sexual allegations were not true. They were praying that their preacher was not on the DL (Down Low), sleeping with other men. They were praying that their preacher would throw those “five rocks” and redeem his name – take away their reproach as a congregation. They were praying that his accusers would walk away in shame, instead – they walked away very rich. They were praying Creflo – but their leader let them down before the whole world. This evil was not limited to Lithonia, Georgia – it was exposed to the whole world.

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“That pastor, he’s loved them and he’s taken care of them, given to them … OK, so he had a wreck. You have some wrecks. I’m thinking ‘man, the mercy of God showed on you but you couldn’t show it to the preacher?'”

Creflo says, “OK, so he had a wreck” like it is not a big deal. Tell that to the millions of children who were, and will be sexually abused. This hit me hard for I was one of those children. Tell that to the countless souls that were raped – the children who are sold as sex slaves – the innocent babies that are still in diapers being molested – the swelling number of women who are abused and tormented by violence in Christian, and non-Christian homes. Can you label these sins a “wreck” too Creflo? By the way, it seems more like the flock took care of him. Many of the members at New Birth are without jobs, and don’t know where their next meal is coming from. Eddie and his family have no financial worries – thanks to the members at New Birth.  So who took care of who? He’s RICH!

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Addressing Long’s case, without naming names, Dollar defended his “friend” and “brother in the Lord,” saying “he’s still going to go to heaven; he’s cleansed; he’s alright.”

Oh, and you are God now? How do you know Long is “still going to heaven; he’s cleansed; he’s alright?” Not once has Eddie Long owned any guilt, wrong-doing, nor has he repented or shown any humility. If he had done the right thing, he would not have been in this position in the first place. And yes Creflo, we all struggle with sin daily. But not all are standing in the pulpit leading the sheep astray. There is no accountability in your church or Long’s for that is the way you set up your so-called ministry – as most mega-churches.

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“He also suggested that these kinds of “wrecks” will go away with time.”

Well Creflo, this one won’t go away for quite some time, if ever. Here is one reason, Long is back in the limelight like nothing is wrong – planning to expand his ministry – instead of healing the wounded souls that believed him to be upstanding with God. He is showing very little care for the hurting people who are now wandering in the wilderness. Not everyone wants to sweep sin under the rug.

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Even though it wasn’t my intent to write about this issue, I had to shed light on the mindset that keep so many abused Christians bound to the chains of hell. Even the non-Christians have no real place to go for help to change their abusive behaviors. Our churches should be leading the way to end domestic violence and abuse. But, most Christians have been lulled to sleep by false prophets, getting their itching ears tickled. And the preachers, well, it is all about the money these days.

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I pray for those who are spiritually bewildered and wondering “What next?” I pray not only for your wounded hearts to heal, but that God will lead you to true men of God who live their lives with spiritual integrity – men who preach the true Word of God without compromise – who are not concerned with riches, but lost souls. I pray that God will lead you to spiritual leaders who refuse to exchange the truth for a lie – leaders with empathy, humility, godliness, and leaders who understand that time is not long as it once was, and we have no time to waste on the things of this present world – which are passing away.

Final note:

Why is Creflo defending a man who would not defend himself? Instead, Long paid his way out of further exposure of his private sins. But God, saw everything!

In many ways, Creflo probably thought that he was doing Eddie Long a service. My educated guess is Creflo would not have had a problem with the financial increase to his ministry – however – the increase would be from the decrease of his friend’s financial pockets. In other words, this is a code of brotherhood which looks out for one another. It would look bad for Creflo to accept tithes from the former flock of his crony, knowing full well that the mass exodus and the lawsuit settlement decreased the size of Eddie’s financial kingdom.

You see, Creflo had no choice but to be harsh, arrogant, and prideful in turning Eddie’s flock away. Guilt is very powerful, and the devil gave Creflo the tool that would strike at the heart of God’s people, and cause some to return to that den of iniquity. This way Creflo can say, “Eddie, I tried to help you.” Creflo didn’t want to touch this controversy with a ten foot pole. In his own pride and arrogance, he did more damage to the situation than good. Shame.

For those who defend Long and not call him to open rebuke, you will have to answer to God for your blindness. May God continue to show mercy to all of us.

Peace

New American Standard Bible (©1995)
“He who justifies the wicked and he who condemns the righteous, Both of them alike are an abomination to the LORD.”

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Links to this story:

http://www.christianpost.com/news/creflo-dollar-defends-eddie-long-rebukes-unforgiving-followers-51024/

1 http://hiphopwired.com/2011/06/08/pastor-creflo-dollar-defends-his-%E2%80%9Cbrother-in-the-lord%E2%80%9D-bishop-eddie-long-video/

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CREFLO CALLED ON THE CARPET FOR DEFENDING EDDIE LONG

New American Standard Bible (©1995)
“Let them alone; they are blind guides of the blind. And if a blind man guides a blind man, both will fall into a pit.”

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CHRISTIAN CHURCH – JUDGE OR NOT JUDGE

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CAN WE REALLY BLAME FALSE PROPHETS?

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WHEN SHOULD A PREACHER STEP DOWN?

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Why people stick by scandal-plagued pastors

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Eddie Long Defies Critics, Announces Another New Birth Satellite

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EDDIE LONG SAGA – TRUTH SHALL PREVAIL

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EDDIE LONG SAGA – WHAT ABOUT THE VICTIMS?

New American Standard Bible (©1995)
“Many will follow their sensuality, and because of them the way of the truth will be maligned;”

International Standard Version (©2008)
“With eyes full of adultery, they cannot get enough of sin. They seduce unsteady souls and have had their hearts expertly trained in greed. They are doomed to a curse.

New American Standard Bible (©1995)
“But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will also be false teachers among you, who will secretly introduce destructive heresies, even denying the Master who bought them, bringing swift destruction upon themselves.”

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New American Standard Bible (©1995)
Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them;

Touch not my anointed!

“I challenge all who say this phrase to read this whole article through prayerfully and with an open mind and heart.”

“Loyalty is a good thing if it is for the right purpose and for truth. One certainly does not want to be loyal and find they have pledged their allegiance to something that is false.”

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“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”
Martin Luther King Jr. (I Have a Dream: Writings and Speeches That Changed the World, Special 75th Anniversary Edition)

UPDATE 12-03-11

Bishop Eddie Long’s wife puts divorce back on table

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Bishop Long responds to wife’s divorce filing

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Eddie Long, Embattled Megachurch Pastor At Center Of Sex Abuse Scandal, Says He Will Take Leave Of Absence From His Church

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BISHOP EDDIE LONG MUST GO!

A COPY OF THE LETTER THAT PROTESTORS ARE HANDING OUT

http://www.pimppreacher.com/Bishop-Eddie-Long-Steps-Down.html

PimpPreacher.com 12/04/2011

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Accuser in Bishop Eddie Long Sex Scandal Pens Tell-All Book, Screenplay

Centino Kemp, the fifth accuser in the Bishop Eddie Long sex scandal, has written a book about his affair with the megachurch pastor, titling the work The First Lady. The book is co-authored by T. Benson Glover.

He describes the book as a story of “love, lust, power, extravagant living and travel, betrayal, deceit, rape, down-low homosexual lifestyle, molestation, church corruption, secret societies, suicide attempts and religion.”

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Megachurch’s future uncertain after pastor leaves

“Marshall said the church can be healed, but also thinks Long needs to step down permanently.”

“All things can be renewed, but I think he needs to leave,” she said. “Why continue to lead people when you are being dishonest? It shames the church, it shames the followers, and it shames him.”

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Eddie Long’s New Birth Christian Academy Closes Down

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Atlanta named to list of ‘kinkiest’ places in America

“According to Alternet, Atlanta is the fifth “kinkiest” town in the United States, and according to the list, it is a place that can show anyone who wants to find something on the seamier side of life can find what they want – and based on information Alternet points to, plenty of people in Atlanta are looking.”

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Eddie Long’s New Birth Christian Academy Closes Down

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1/8/12 UPDATE

Bishop Eddie Long Back at New Birth Pulpit?

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Eddie Long’s Wife Calls Off Divorce

 Updated: Friday, 17 Feb 2012, 6:03 PM EST
Published : Friday, 17 Feb 2012, 4:42 PM EST


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New American Standard Bible (©1995)
“Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him.

New American Standard Bible (©1995)
Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.

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Ephren Taylor Accused of $11 Million Christian Ponzi Scheme by SEC

“Ephren Taylor stepped into the pulpit with the ease of preacher’s son, taking the microphone at the New Birth Baptist Church in Atlanta, where the powerful pastor Eddie Long was introducing him to the Sunday morning crowd.”

“Everything he says is based on the word of God,” Long pledged to the members of his megachurch. But Taylor wasn’t a visiting minister. He was a financial adviser, one who claimed to have made his first million before he turned 18. And he promised he could do the same for his fellow Christians.”

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Bishop Eddie Long Accuser Centino Kemp To Release Tell-All Book

Centino Kemp, the fifth accuser who came forward in the Bishop Eddie Long sex scandal of alleged affairs with teen boys nearly three years ago, will release a tell-all book on Valentine’s Day, according to the Georgia Voice.      2013

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Bishop Eddie Long dies of aggressive form of cancer, church says

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New details released for Bishop Eddie Long memorial service

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First Lady   (CLICK ON LINK TO GO TO AMAZON TO REVIEW BOOK)

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Posted by on June 19, 2011 in WOLVES IN SHEEPS CLOTHING

 

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – IS SILENCE GOLDEN?


By Terry Loving

“Silence is golden, as her father used to say when she used to fly into tempers and wanted to say nasty things to everybody within range.” [1923 A. Huxley Antic Hay xx.] 1

Oh, don’t it hurt deep inside
To see someone do something’ to her?
Oh, don’t it pain to see someone cry?
Oh especially when someone is her

Silence is golden
But my eyes’ still see
Silence is golden, golden
But my eyes still see

A talkin’ is cheap, people follow like sheep
Even though there is nowhere to go
How could she tell he deceived her so well
Pity she’ll be the last one to know

Silence is golden
But my eyes’ still see
Silence is golden, golden
But my eyes still see

How many times did she fall for his line?
Should I tell her or should I keep cool?
And if I tried I know she’ll say I lied
Mind your business, don’t hurt her, you fool

Silence is golden
But my eyes’ still see
Silence is golden, golden
But my eyes still see

But my eyes still see 2

There is an old adage – saying, proverb, motto – that “Silence is golden.” It basically means that there are times in which silence has its merit, and should be exercised wisely. Ecclesiastes 3:7 states there is, “A time to be silent and a time to speak.” Where domestic violence is concerned, silence IS NOT golden. The abused – the church – society – and our own families have been silent much too long. It is time to SPEAK!

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS NOT A PRIVATE MATTER!

It is a CRIMINAL OFFENSE

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WOMEN WHO BROKE THE SILENCE – AND SURVIVED – IT IS POSSIBLE


“It starts with screams and must never end in silence.”

“I experienced real fear – the type where you shake from head to foot for fear of dying, being disfigured for life or being disabled. And yet we had separated and I had reported him to the police. If he isn’t supervised, I wonder what offenses he will commit next and who his next victim will be. These keys symbolise the flat where I can sleep safely now and have been able to start a new life.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074742734/in/set-72157610604063276/

“He left me for dead like a piece of rubbish. I want him to be punished. Not prosecuting them only encourages them to carry on. Despite everything, I loved my husband and that made me suffer.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3073907579/in/set-72157610604063276/

“Today I am waiting for the trial so that he can be judged and imprisoned. He says he is sorry and wants me to come back. There is no way that is going to happen.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074742560/in/set-72157610604063276/

“I need to feel safe from predators. Sometimes I feel scared… lost… so tired and weary. But I know I need a new love, kindness, affection, sharing, being happy again.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074742800/in/set-72157610604063276/

“After the divorce and after he had been sentenced for violence and death threats, I turned the page and put it all behind me. I have been able to rebuild a trusting relationship with a man I had known for a long time – he was the one for me. There is always hope. There is a life after this hell.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3073907937/in/set-72157610604063276/

“For six years, day after day, he would hit me. He split my head open, broke my nose, burnt my arm with a cigarette. I ran away to Spain with only my daughter under my arm and my papers.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074742946/in/set-72157610604063276/

“Today I drift from shelter to shelter while he sits comfortably at home.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074743002/in/set-72157610604063276/

“I decided to take my life into my own hands and with the help of doctors, social workers, lawyers and the shelter for women, where I was in very good company, I regained my self-confidence. Now I express my feelings through my painting.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3073908185/in/set-72157610604063276/

“Even in desperate situations, the child’s interests must be safeguarded. It is important to guarantee the right of the child to a normal school-life.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074743198/in/set-72157610604063276/

“We got married because we were in love. Some time later, he started locking me in the house and hitting me. He raped me and forced me to have sexual relations which I did not agree to.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074743374/in/set-72157610604063276/

SILENCE IS A BATTERER’S BEST FRIEND

IT’S TIME TO FIND A WAY OUT!

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“SIN BY SILENCE”


1 http://www.answers.com/topic/silence-is-golden

2 http://www.answers.com/topic/silence-is-golden-tremeloes-song

SILENCE IS GOLDEN (song)

Performed by: The Tremeloes
Written by: B Crewe; B Gaudio

Credits: Crewe, B (Songwriter); Gaudio, B (Songwriter); SONGS OF WINDSWEPT PACIFIC (Publisher)

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“Domestic violence cases are a priority for prosecutors because they know where abuse can lead…”

“It’s not domestic violence prosecution, it’s homicide prevention…”

http://www.heraldnet.com/article/20110220/NEWS01/702209959

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The Danger Assessment

The Danger Assessment helps to determine the level of danger an abused woman has of being killed by her intimate partner. It is free and available to the public. Using the Danger Assessment requires the weighted scoring and interpretation that is provided after completing the training. The Danger Assessment is available in a variety of languages.

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BREAK THE SILENCE!

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EDDIE LONG ACCUSERS – WHY WAIT SO LONG?

“B.J. Bernstein, the attorney in the case, noted during a recent news conference how difficult it was for these young men to come forward, considering the fact that they are acknowledging homosexual behavior and that they aren’t homosexual.”1


It is no wonder that children who are molested, women who are raped, males who are abused, and victims of domestic violence are often silent – no one believes them when they speak out. There are numerous victims of incest that go to their graves with their family secrets. Often times, when those who have been victimized in some way gain strength to tell what happened to them – they are often blamed as if they asked for the crimes committed against them.

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If you are one of those mentioned above, you know how painful it is just to think about what happened – let alone tell someone. The events are real, and yet, in your mind you often wonder if it was all a bad dream that you can’t wake up from. Bits and pieces of your memory may have been lost, but your soul testifies that something traumatic really did happen to you. As a child, you may not be able to attach a label to the horrific way in which you were treated. But as an adult, one word will suffice – evil.

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I don’t believe the “accusers” in the Eddie Long case are lying. Something did happen above and beyond what has been revealed to the public. I am sure it is not an easy thing for a male to admit that they were sexually exploited by another male. Even a woman who was wooed, pampered, sexually used and then discarded would have a hard time admitting what she went through. If the woman views herself as intelligent, she really beats herself up for not seeing the signs that the guy was a fake, and only wanted to misuse her. Imagine how a young person must feel.

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Children who grow up without fathers, and live in homes that are wanting will become deeply attached to anyone who shows them kindness, and provides for them. Why do you think it is easy for a run-a-way to get caught up in prostitution? The pimp was kind, fed, clothed them and showed them “fake” love. The unsuspecting took the bait that supplied their needs, but were not able to discern the trap. Once they accepted the provisions and gifts, they became obligated to do the bidding of those who provided for them. If they refused, they were often punished with violence and abuse.

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­­Many comments concerning those who accused Long of wrong-doing cannot understand why it took them so long to come forward. I once knew a little five-year old that was raped by a “friend” of her mother – who tied her to a pole in a basement, and beat her to death. Why? Because she said, “I am going to tell my mommy!” The animal that molested me when I was about the same age told me that he would “kill” my mother if I said anything. There are many ways to silence victims. I never revealed what happen to me until I was in my forties. That is a very long time to swallow the hurt and confusion.

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I was betrayed by my own mother – betrayal hurts! If betrayal led Long’s accusers to speak out, I can relate. Being used and discarded is a form of betrayal. With my mother, the trust was betrayed. The love was betrayed. The care-giving was betrayed. And the love and care I had for her was betrayed. When you look up to a parent or parent figure that lets you down – the pain is unbearable. Many turn the pain inward – as I had done and others lash out. Long’s accusers were betrayed.

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Many people blame the devil for this unfortunate blight on the church. But who is to say that God Himself isn’t cleaning house? Could it be in these “Last Days” that God is exposing evil to save the flock? It isn’t His desire that His creation spends eternity in hell – hell was created for the devil and his angels:

“Then He will also say to those on His left, ‘Depart from Me, accursed ones, into the eternal fire which has been prepared for the devil and his angels;” (Matthew 25:41-NASB)

“My eyes are on all their ways; they are not hidden from me, nor is their sin concealed from my eyes.” (Jeremiah 16:17)

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Who is to refute that God is tired of seeing His children duped by pulpit pimps, and liars who distort His Word? Many in the body of Christ are taking the wrong side – the accused. Until the “whole” truth comes out, isn’t it better to be on God’s side, and show compassion for those who have been hurt by power and misuse of the Word? It takes a lot of inner fortitude, and the strength of God to tell the whole world that you were sexually abused – especially if you are a male.

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Speaking of the “whole truth,” mediation will shut that down. All of the sordid details that the world is waiting to hear may never be heard. But they are recorded in heaven. Don’t let preacher popularity blind you to the evil of sexual abuse. “Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before stumbling.” (Proverbs 16:18)

“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.”

Galatians 6:7

1http://straightfromthea.com/2010/09/23/anthony-flagg-maurice-robinson-caught-on-camera/

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AFTER THE VIOLENCE – THEY HAD SEX

By Terry Loving

It was another night of violence – body slamming – glass breaking – yelling – punching – the same scenario,  every time. Except this time, something was different.

My mother wasn’t sitting on the couch nursing her wounds. Maybe she didn’t get hurt that badly this time? Someone did – the sounds of violence were too intense for no harm done. Something was different though – it was quiet – too quiet – did someone die? Hopefully, it wasn’t my mother. What would we do? Where would we go? It was quiet, too quiet.

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As I slowly crept to the closed bedroom door, I heard moaning. Someone was still alive. Did my mother need a doctor? Was she bleeding like the last time? I was afraid to open the door – but I had to know if my mother needed help. My hands were shaking, but I forced them to turn the knob, and open the bedroom door. It was a “No-No” to open the grown-ups bedroom door without permission – but this was an emergency – my emergency – I had to find out if my mother was still alive.

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Nothing could have prepared my young mind for the confusion I experienced that day. My mother was alive, hurt, but alive. Her abuser was in the same position that he was always – on top – they were having sex. I stood there for just a moment trying to take it in. I wasn’t interested in the act itself – but the explanation. How could she take a beating like that, and they have sex afterward? I was a kid then, I can’t remember my age – but I knew that what was happening wasn’t something that was supposed to happen. Sex?? How??

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A friend of mine confided in me that his parents had sex after the violence as well. Ike Turner and many other abusers expect/demand sex after they beat their victims senseless. For abusers this is the icing on the violence, a coming down after a building up. For the victim, this is forced sex, humiliation, torture, adding insult to injury, and in many cases – marital rape.

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As a child, I could not understand why my mother would allow it. As an adult, I realize that she had no choice. Why face another beating when you are already bleeding and broken – just give in and survive. And that is what sex after a beat-down amounts to – survival. No one can convince me that a battered woman enjoys sex after physical abuse. Personally, I had a hard time being intimate with my ex-husband after his verbal tirades. In fact, I didn’t. So, I know that this isn’t sex that is enjoyed. If so, then both abuser and the abused have serious issues.

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If you are living with violence and abuse – sexual abuse – it won’t be long before you are an empty shell. You will be among the walking dead, soul-less, and you will have nothing left. I pray for your strength to get out of the hellish life you are living, seek help. If you stay, there are only two roads that will lead your life – anger and revenge – depression, and possibly suicide – either way – death. You are worth much more than that to God. He loves you. You are worthy of love and respect no matter what you have gone through. Honor yourself – live!

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NATIONAL CENTER  – on Domestic and Sexual Violence

http://www.ncdsv.org/

SIGNS OF ABUSE AND ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm

MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCES

http://www.findcounseling.com/journal/domestic-violence/sexual-abuse.html

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“My God, my rock, in whom I take refuge, My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold and my refuge; My savior, You save me from violence.” (2 Samuel 22:3 – NASB)

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What About The Children?

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Have you ever asked your son if he were molested? Has your daughter ever been made to sit on “daddy’s” lap and play the tickle game? Does your child cut up in school, act out for no visible reasons? Do you listen to your children when they tell you they are mistreated? Most of all, would you believe your daughter if she told you your boyfriend touched her in her “special place?”

Sadly, many women are in denial when it comes to their boyfriends. They make the mistake of allowing a strange man to move into their homes, – take on the role of “daddy” – when the man has no love in his heart for the children. Oh sure, he pays lip service to accepting the package deal – a woman with kids. But over time, his contempt for kids that he did not father comes to light – or kept  secret.

Many so-called men will find a weak-willed woman who is desperate for companionship, and dominate her life to gain control. Domination doesn’t happen all at once, it is subtle, calculating, and very deceiving. Little by little, the woman who was once “head of the household” is now a beat down servant, and her children become submissive through fear.

No one enjoys being alone. God made us to need one another – to give and receive love. But given the climate of our world today, especially relationships, isn’t it time for a serious inspection of our lives? What is more important, living a life of misery and pain, or raising our children to become productive members of society- whole and spiritually sound?

Many children are neglected – no decent clothing – but the boyfriends are looking sharp and well-kept. There are women who will work, allow the boyfriends to stay at home with his buddies all day, and expect him to be “the man.” I don’t respect any so-called man who will live off of a woman, especially a woman with kids.

The other downside to live-in boyfriends, they molest, abuse, and mistreat your children – not all, but too many. Not to mention, they may also beat and mistreat you. Countless innocent children, both male and female have been raped– repeatedly by boyfriends. Granted, biological fathers have been known to mistreat their own flesh and blood – even some mothers.  Daddies have raped their own daughters while mommy slept in the next room. But right now, this post is about live-in boyfriends.

When we live in sin, anything can happen. Unregenerate hearts have no sense of decency, and they know no boundaries. The mind that is far from the heart of God will commit ungodly acts, and make excuses for abominations. When you find out that your boyfriend has molested your 6-year old daughter, you may get rid of him – but your child is damaged for life!

Get educated. Get support. Listen to your children. Be strong enough to raise them alone, and meet their ever changing needs. Look to the Word of God for strength to give your offspring the best life that you can give them. Love is great – love is what everyone needs – especially your children. They will be a part of your life forever. Men will come and go, but your children will be yours always.

The pain of molestation is lifelong, and in many cases, it  can be avoided. If your children tell you something is wrong, believe them. Besides, is it that important to have a man, if he is the wrong man?

Listen to your children, they are a gift of God. And you will answer to God for not protecting them. My mom was an alcoholic – sick and selfish. Her needs were always more important than those of her children. You have a choice, make it a positive one.

God bless.

Mom’s Boyfriend Charged In Toddler Sex Abuse Death

http://spiritual-side-of-domestic-violence.org/id60.html

“Holy and awesome is His  name. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. A good understanding have all those who do His commandments.

Psalm 111:9-10

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