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MOVIES ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ABUSE

By Terry Loving

“And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power,

and the glory, for ever. Amen”. (Matthew 6:13)

hotlineOctober is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Another foundation that shares the month of October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month – both causes are equally important.

The first awareness month was in Oct. 1987, which is the same year the national toll-free hotline began. The month was created out of the first Day of Unity observed in Oct. 1981 by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The Day of Unity grew into a week of activities to spread awareness of domestic violence.

This year (2014), I will be listing movies about abuse and domestic violence. Please be mindful that this is Hollywood, and many of the movies will be rated “R”. Even so, there are many truths that are spoken and displayed throughout many of the movies.

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SLING BLADE

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“25 Years after committing an unthinkable crime, a quiet man named Karl (Thornton) finally returns home. Once there, he’s befriended by a fatherless boy and his mother. But when his new-found peace is shattered by the mother’s abusive boyfriend, Karl is suddenly placed on a collision course with his past!”

This movie possibly answers many questions concerning abused women such as, “Why does she stay?” “Why won’t she leave?” Linda is a woman like many others who stay for the “good times.” Known as the “honeymoon stage,” this is a period of calm and false security in abusive relationships. On the other hand, Linda feels trapped by the threat of death if she leaves her boyfriend Doyle Hargraves. She convinces her traumatized son that it is best to “bide our time,” thus hoping for a day when it is safe to get away from Doyle. In addition, Linda is hoping that perhaps her abuser will tire of her and leave on his own. Unfortunately, that never happened as Doyle dug his heels in deeper by pledging to move in with Linda and her son and be the “head” of the household.

Linda’s son Frank Wheatley – “I ain’t never gonna be happy now!”

Karl Childers – “You will be happy.”

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THE UNSPOKEN TRUTH

The Unspoken Truth

 “Made for television, The Unspoken Truth is the factual story of Brianne Hawkins (Lea Thompson), who after enduring a lifetime of abuse at the hands of her family marries the even more abusive Clay Hawkins (James Marshall). Given to beating his wife at the slightest provocation, Clay finally goes completely over the edge when he shoots and kills a man who had the temerity to speak to Brianne without Clay’s permission. Thinking quickly for a change, Clay persuades Brianne to take the rap for the killing, whereupon she complicity (if not willingly) concocts an elaborate story as to how she shot the man accidentally. Not only do the authorities refuse to swallow this fabrication, but they end up sending both Clay and Brianne to prison for life! Only when the future of her daughter, Lily (Karis Paige Bryant), is jeopardized does the long-suffering Brianne finally work up the courage to fight for her freedom and her long-denied fundamental rights as a human being. A shocking mid-film revelation elevates this story from the usual battered-wife TV-movie syndrome. Filmed on location in Austin, TX, The Unspoken Truth originally aired September 24, 1995, on NBC. ~ Hal Erickson, Rovi”

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THE COLOR PURPLE

The Color Purple

“Based on the Pulitzer Prize-winning novel by Alice Walker, The Color Purple spans the years 1909 to 1949, relating the life of Celie (Whoopi Goldberg), a Southern black woman virtually sold into a life of servitude to her brutal husband, sharecropper Albert (Danny Glover). Celie pours out her innermost thoughts in letter form to her sister Nettie (Akousa Busia), but Albert has been hiding the letters Nettie writes back, allowing Celie to assume that Nettie is dead. Finally, Celie finds a champion in the don’t-take-no-guff Sofia (Oprah Winfrey), the wife of Glover’s son from a previous marriage. Alas, Sofia is “humbled” when she is beaten into submission by angry whites. Later, Celie is able to forge a strong friendship with Albert’s mistress Shug (Margaret Avery). Emboldened by this, Celie begins rifling through her husband’s belongings and finds Nettie’s letters. Able at last to stand up to her husband, Celie leaves him to search for a new life on her own. A major box-office hit, The Color Purple was nominated for eleven Oscars. The film was co-produced by Quincy Jones, who also wrote the score. ~ Hal Erickson, Rovi”

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WHAT’S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT?

Whats Love Got To Do With It

“What’s Love Got to Do With It? is the filmed biography of R&B/pop singer Tina Turner (Angela Bassett), documenting her efforts to break away from her abusive husband Ike (Laurence Fishburne). After a few scenes detailing Tina’s life as a young singer in Nutbush, TN, she’s discovered by Ike Turner, an already established songwriter, guitarist, and record producer. Ike takes Tina under his wing and makes her a star, but her fame makes him jealous and abusive, and she has to struggle to break free of his domination. ~ Stephen Thomas Erlewine, Rovi”

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THE ABDUCTION

The Abduction

“While their marriage may have started off happily, Kate now finds that her police officer husband Paul has grown more unstable and abusive with each passing year. At long last, she leaves him and tries to start a new life for herself. Paul, however, has become obsessed with the thought of getting Kate back, and starts stalking her. Matters come to a head when he takes her hostage and threatens to kill her. Will she get out of this alive, or will it end in tragedy?”

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THE BURNING BED

The Burning Bed

“An abused battered wife has had enough of husband beating up on her. Everywhere she turns for help, there’s not much anyone will do. After he rapes her one night, she sets the bed on fire with him in it asleep.”

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TAKE MY EYES

Take my eyes

“Spanish actress/author/filmmaker Icíar Bollaín writes and directs the family drama Te Doy Mis Ojos (Take My Eyes), co-written by Alicia Luna. Pilar (Laia Marull) leaves her abusive husband, Antonio (Luis Tosar), during the middle of winter in Toledo, Spain. She and her son, Juan (Nicolás Fernández Luna), go to live with her sister Ana (Candela Peña). While supportive, Ana doesn’t fully understand Pilar’s situation. Pilar’s mother, Aurora (Rosa María Sardà), refuses to acknowledge the problem. Antonio is desperate to win back Pilar. He sends her constant presents and even attends therapy sessions in order to work through his anger. Meanwhile, Pilar gets a job at an art museum and tries to restart her life. Take My Eyes won several awards at the San Sebastian Film Festival before making its U.S. premiere at the Sundance Film Festival in 2004. ~ Andrea LeVasseur, Rovi”

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A Cry for Help The Tracey Thurman Story

A cry for help

“Tracy Thurman was married to a man who abused her. But he continues to harass her after she gets a restraining order, and the police do little to help. When he brutally beats her and slashes her throat in front of police, she sues the city and the police department for failing to protect her.”

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PROVOKED: A TRUE STORY

Provoked

“It’s the true story of a Punjabi woman named Kiranjit Ahluwalia who leaves India to marry a London-based guy, only to be badly abused. She ends up in prison for murdering her abusive husband.”

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MEN DON’T TELL (1993)

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“This movie shows another side to spousal abuse that not too many people thought is possible–the husband being abused and the wife the abuser.”

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BLACK and BLUE

Black and blue

“After a woman’s husband beats and abuses her, she and her son join the witness protection program and move away secretly.”

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UNFORGIVABLE 1996

Unforgivable 1996

“John Ritter plays a family man who puts his wife through domestic violence and his children through emotional torture. After leaving his family and almost killing his new girlfriend in one of his rages, he is ordered to seek professional help through an innovative therapy program or go to jail.”

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Cries Unheard: The Donna Yaklich Story (1994)

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“Donna Yaklich meets Dennis the policeman and thinks she might have found a good relationship. But Dennis is obsessed with weight-lifting and uses steroids, which make him aggressive and abusive. Getting out of the relationship isn’t easy as Dennis isn’t willing to let her go, and Donna’s options are narrowed down to one remaining alternative.”

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SHATTERED DREAMS

Shattered Dreams

“Charlotte marries John. Things seem ok; John has a good job and he’s going up in the world, working for the government. But every so often he loses his temper and Charlotte gets the brunt of his anger. During the 18 year course of their marriage, there are at least 8 incidents of physical abuse and countless of mental. Charlotte’s family and friends tell her to leave John but she keeps going back, most likely because he has convinced her that she would be nothing without him. It finally explodes in a big divorce battle balancing on the cases of abuse.”

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LIES OF THE HEART

Lies of the heart“This is the fact-based made-for-TV movie of Laurie Kellog, who was accused of the murder of her husband Bruce in May 1992, told in flashbacks while she’s waiting for her judgment. When she was 16 she met the 15 years older Bruce Kellog, a charming guy, and moved in with him shortly after. What she didn’t know was that he “bought” her from her stepfather for 500 bucks. First she’s happy to serve him, but not long and Bruce shows his real face.”

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DANGEROUS INTENTIONS

Dangerous Intentions

“A man stalks his wife and child when they leave for an abused women’s shelter.”

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SLEEPING with the DEVIL

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“Professional nurse Rebecca Dubrovich (Shannen Doherty) is swept off her feet by charming millionaire Dick Strang (Tim Matheson), and the two begin a passionate romance. Only when it is too late does Rebecca discover that Strang has, to put it mildly, a dark side: He’s a bigamist, a control freak, a pathological liar, and a vicious sadist. Breaking off the relationship, Rebecca is subsequently stalked by the obsessive Strang, who ultimately injures her so severely that she is confined to a wheelchair. During her painful recovery period, Rebecca falls in love with orthopedic surgeon Jerrold Petrofsky (David Bowe), and ultimately dedicates her life to helping other victims of abusive relationships. Based on a true story previously dramatized on the television anthology Unsolved Mysteries and then released in book form, the made-for-TV Sleeping with the Devil originally aired April 22, 1997 on CBS. ~ Hal Erickson, Rovi”

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ENOUGH

ENOUGH“Working class waitress Slim finds her life transformed when she marries wealthy contractor Mitch. She settles into an idyllic suburban life and seems to have everything she wants: loving husband, beautiful home, and Gracie, an adorable 5-year-old daughter. Her dream is shattered when she discovers her husband is anything but perfect. His abusive behavior forces her to go on the run, eluding an increasingly obsessive Mitch and his lethal henchmen. When, despite Slim’s efforts to make a new life, Mitch finds her and threatens her again, she puts Gracie in safe keeping, toughens herself mentally and physically and sets out to prove to Mitch she’s had enough.”

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FAMILY of STRANGERS

FAMILY OF STRANGERS

“Julie must disclose her family’s medical history before undergoing major surgery, but when she questions her family, she discovers that she was adopted and later, that her conception was the product of a rape.”

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NO ONE WOULD TELL

NO ONE WOULD TELL

“Shy sixteen-year-old Stacy Collins can’t believe that the most popular guy in school, an attractive athlete named Bobby Tennison, is interested in her. At first she is flattered by his constant attention, but then he becomes possessive and jealous-telling her who she can speak to and what she can wear. Threats escalate into violence when Bobby thinks Stacy has stepped out of line. Soon she is walking on egg shells and living in fear. Having seen the tell-tale bruises, Stacy’s best friend convinces her to break things off with Bobby-but in a moment of weakness, Stacy goes to meet him.”

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ONCE WERE WARRIORS

ONCE WERE WARRIORS

“A family descended from Maori warriors is bedeviled by a violent father and the societal problems of being treated as outcasts.”

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SIN by SILENCE

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“Inside the California Institution for Women, the first inmate initiated and led group in U.S. prison history, shatters the misconceptions of domestic violence.

Convicted Women Against Abuse (CWAA) was created in 1989 to help women inside prison break the silence about abuse and learn more about what they needed to do to help others stop the cycle of violence.

Instead of fighting a system that does not fully comprehend the complexities of abuse, the women of CWAA led an initiative to help educate the system. Through careful orchestration of letter writing campaigns, media coverage, and senate hearings a movement was born and laws for battered women were changed. And for the founder of CWAA, the flicker of hope begins to grow as her possible freedom, after 26 years in prison, lies moments away.”

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Bastard out of Carolina on AllMovie

BASTARD OUT OF CAROLINA

“Bastard out of Carolina was the first novel published by author Dorothy Allison. The book, which is semi-autobiographical in nature, is set in Allison’s hometown of Greenville, South Carolina. Narrated by Ruth Anne “Bone” Boatwright, the primary conflict occurs between Bone and her mother’s husband, Glen.

The novel examines the expectations of gender and mother–child relationships, and explores the roles of these characters in the future. Conditions of class, race, sexuality and gender play out in Bone’s life and her relationships with others.

The book was adapted into a film in 1996.”

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Site that lists pages of movies with domestic abuse themes.
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Let us continue to pray for those who suffer the evil of domestic violence and abuse, and assist when and where we can.
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“Is It Possible To Not Be An Abuser If You Hit Once?”

By Terry Loving

Titus 2:6  “Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled.”

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Psalm 37:8 “Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret–it leads only to evil.”

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Clarke’s Commentary on the Bible

“Husbands, love your wives. Be not bitter against them – Wherever bitterness is, there love is wanting. And where love is wanting in the married life, there is hell upon earth.”

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The title of this post is a search term used to reach my site. It is a very good question, and I will try to tackle it in an honest and Biblical manner. You only hit her once, and now you wonder if that makes you an abuser. Well, first of all, we will define the words “abuse” and “abuser” to answer this question.

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Abuse

2. to treat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive way:

3. to speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about; revile; malign.

4. to commit sexual assault upon. 1

a·buser n.

Synonyms: abuse, misuse, mistreat, ill-treat, maltreat
These verbs mean to treat wrongfully or harmfully. Abuse applies to injurious or improper treatment:

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Noun1.abuser – someone who abuses

maltreater, offender, wrongdoer – a person who transgresses moral or civil law 2

 maltreat  (mælˈtriːt)   — vb ( tr ) to treat badly, cruelly, or inconsiderately  3

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Think about this for a moment. If you are sick and your doctor prescribes medication, and you take it only as directed, you are not abusing your meds. However, if you take more than prescribed, and decide to use the drugs as a means of getting high instead of getting well – you are abusing your prescription medication – especially if you drink alcohol to enhance the high.

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What you are doing in this case is going beyond the boundaries of what is prescribed. The boundaries are there for your protection, and your well-being. The operative word here is “boundaries.” When you physically assault someone – even if it is the first time – you have trespassed “boundaries.” The abused may or may not have expressed “boundaries” early in the relationship such as, no hitting, no cheating, no neglect and the like. However, even unspoken “boundaries” can be trespassed by way of human mistreatment – that is frowned upon by our supposed civilized society.

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 In light of the above definitions, ask yourself if you treated someone in a “harmful, injurious, or offensive way.” Did you “speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about” this person? Did you “commit sexual assault upon?” Did you “revile” (berate, insult) or “malign” (do evil) to someone who did not deserve such treatment? If you are an honest person, by now you should have the answer to the question as to whether or not you abused someone.

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Most abusers are noted for habitual mistreatment of others, and over time their injustice increases. Most abusers will not submit to therapy, God or repent for their evil deeds. Most abusers feel justified in their anger, and view their mates especially as their “property” – to treat them as they see fit. Most abusers falsely believe that God gave them the authoritative right to treat their mates with harshness, if they don’t “do what they are told.” Which are you?

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Hitting someone in anger is never justified. You stumbled, but still chose to use violence as a means of settling a dispute. Whether you will be known as an abuser, or someone who made a terrible mistake is up to you. If you fail to practice self-control, and neglect seeking the cause of your anger – and dealing with it effectively – then yes, you will become a habitual abuser. You can stop it now, or you can allow Satan to convince you that you are justified in your actions, and continue to hurt the one you claim to love.

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Whether you will be known as an abuser, live a life as an abuser – is totally a decision you will have to make – starting right now! If you hit someone once – that is not a good thing – and you can seek help before you ruin lives – including your own. Every human being possesses the ability to become angry, it is how you handle anger that makes the difference. Some things are not worth getting angry over, and it is never cool to hit.

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So, “Is it possible to not be an abuser if you hit once?” It is possible to not continue living this way. However, you did abuse someone, and you must own that. People tend to think that if you did not bloody a nose, break bones, or black eyes – you did not abuse. Wrong! Abuse is exhibited in many forms including verbal, economic, spiritual and emotional. You abused someone, even if you hit them only once. Repent to God, and the abused. Strive for self-control:

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2Peter 1:5-11

“Now for this very reason also, applying all diligence, in your faith supply moral excellence, and in your moral excellence, knowledge, and in your knowledge, self-control, and in your self-control, perseverance, and in your perseverance, godliness, and in your godliness, brotherly kindness, and in your brotherly kindness, love. For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they render you neither useless nor unfruitful in the true knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. For he who lacks these qualities is blind or short-sighted, having forgotten his purification from his former sins. Therefore, brethren, be all the more diligent to make certain about His calling and choosing you; for as long as you practice these things, you will never stumble; for in this way the entrance into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ will be abundantly supplied to you.”

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 If you need help, do not be afraid to seek it. Falling on your knees and repenting is the first step. Acknowledge your wrong-doing, and seek godly ways to never commit this sin again. Abusing others places you in the position of transgressing a moral law, as well as God’s law. Ask yourself this, do you want your legacy to be tainted with abuse of innocent persons? When you stand before God in the Judgment, how will you plead – innocent or guilty? What possible justifications will you offer your Creator?

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What excuses will you offer the abused? Remember this, abuse is a choice. Will you choose to stop it now, or continue on this destructive path? Is abusing someone the way you choose to get love, when you are actually destroying what your heart desires? No one loves an abuser, they are just afraid – and eventually will find a way to get away from you. Is this what you want? Only you, the one who hit once can make a character choice in the right direction. Only you are to blame for how you treat other human beings, made in the image of Almighty God. Only you can make the choice today to never hit again – what do you choose?

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Colossians 3:19 “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”

New American Standard Bible (©1995)
“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.”

New American Standard Bible (©1995)
“A man of violence entices his neighbor And leads him in a way that is not good.”

Psalm 9:12 “For he who avenges blood remembers; he does not ignore the cry of the afflicted.”

New American Standard Bible (©1995)

“Do not sharply rebuke an older man, but rather appeal to him as a father, to the younger men as brothers, the older women as mothers, and the younger women as sisters, in all purity.”

Colossians 3:8 “But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.”

Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Bible Commentary

19. (Eph 5:22-33.)

…”be not bitter-ill-tempered and provoking. Many who are polite abroad, are rude and bitter at home because they are not afraid to be so there.”

Gill’s Exposition of the Entire Bible

Husbands, love your wives,…. See Gill on Ephesians 5:25.

“and be not bitter against them; turning love into hatred of their persons; ruling with rigour, and in a tyrannical manner; behaving towards them in a morose, churlish, and ill natured way; giving them either bitter words, or blows, and denying them their affection, care, provision, protection, and assistance, but using them as servants, or worse. All which is barbarous, brutish, and unchristian, and utterly unbecoming the Gospel.”

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I Said I Was Sorry

by Mark Gungor on October 5th, 2009

“I hear tales all the time of men who have done hurtful things—huge things like having an affair or smaller things like saying something very mean and spiteful—and then they say, “I’m sorry” and expect it all to go away. When it doesn’t these guys get upset and throw it back on their wives because his wife “can’t get over it”. It just doesn’t work that way for women. Men need to learn that pushing her to “move on” isn’t the answer. The answer is for you to own the problem that you created.”

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The Danger Assessment

The Danger Assessment helps to determine the level of danger an abused woman has of being killed by her intimate partner. It is free and available to the public. Using the Danger Assessment requires the weighted scoring and interpretation that is provided after completing the training. The Danger Assessment is available in a variety of languages.

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE/CRIMINAL BACKGROUND CHECKS

I said it before, and I will say it again, dating should include criminal background checks. Surely it will take some of the euphoria out of “falling in love”, but it may save a life in the end. You cannot look at a person and tell anything about them, except for the external; a slob; dirty; neat; good taste in clothing; clean/well groomed; skinny; tall; overweight, etc. I didn’t include male and female in the list, for even in that case one can be fooled.

Take a look at this picture.

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Ryan Jenkins looks like your average “Knight in Shining Armor.” On the surface, he seems to be a dream, and someone that most women would erroneously label as -“Mr. Right.” Ryan was a contestant on VH1’s reality TV show, “Megan Wants a Millionaire.” He is rich, comes from a wealthy family, and a few of his material possessions include a boat and a white Mercedes Benz.  This picture projects the illusion that a woman would feel “lucky” to have him in her life. His wife-Jasmine Fiore may have previously felt this way about Ryan, and now she is dead.

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Does this picture of Ryan resemble a man that would batter a woman? Have a history of domestic violence? Kill a woman? Strangle to death? How about this-remove the teeth and fingers from his victim’s body so she could not be identified? And worst yet, stuff her naked body in a suitcase, and dump her like yesterday’s trash-a human being. Authorities are diligently seeking the whereabouts of Ryan Jenkins, for he is the prime suspect in the murder of his wife. An arrest warrant has been issued, along with a “$10 million bail.” Ryan is considered “armed and dangerous,” and presumes that his money can hide him indefinitely.

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Take another look at his picture. Does he look like a man that you would need protection from? You can’t tell can you? His background check slipped through the cracks-someone dropped the ball, and now a woman is dead. The sad part is, even without a conviction for a crime, and the absence of a public arrest record, you still cannot judge a book by its cover. As human beings, we tend to rely on our senses for direction concerning the character of others. Perhaps there was a time when we could vouch for a person’s character, and they would not disappoint us. In these present times, we need to do more to protect ourselves, and stop being overly trusting.

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This is not to say that we should live in fear of other human beings. However, there are many that we should literally run from-as far and as fast as we can. Jeremiah 9:4 says it best:

“Let everyone be on guard against his neighbor, And do not trust any brother; Because every brother deals craftily, And every neighbor goes about as a slanderer.”

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It is time for us to “be on guard.” We are living in a very wicked era-residents of a fallen-sin cursed world. When it comes to welcoming strangers into our private lives, we need to be “on guard,” and do our homework. Criminal background checks are mostly-free when conducted online, and on the Sheriff’s Department web site in your state. Here is an example:

http://www.ojs.dekalbga.org/

This link will take you to the “Online Judicial System” for Dekalb County, Ga. Click on the “ENTER” button, and make your selection. For individuals, just click on “INDIVIDUAL USER.” You will come to a page where you can type in a name, and search under the following:

Criminal record search

Jail/ID Name search

Jail/Inmate Report

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If you possess the birth date of an individual, great! The birth date will weed out all the other persons with the same name, and go right to the source. Here is another link:

https://www2.fdle.state.fl.us/cchinet/

Florida Department of Law Enforcement-Criminal History Information

NOTE: The fee for this service is $24  EFFECTIVE JULY 1, 2008  PURSUANT TO FLORIDA LAW

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“FALLING IN LOVE” – IS A CHOICE

It has been said of love, that it is “the greatest gift of all.” Human beings, even animals crave love for that is how our Creator fashioned us. Most of all, to love God with all of our hearts, souls, and minds is paramount. Even with all of the craziness in this world, I still believe in love, and have a lot of love in my heart. But now, I believe that people, especially women-should “get smart” about dating and trusting. And whatever your personal criteria for mate selection, I truly hope that you will add a background check to the list.

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Since “falling in love” is a choice, we can learn to interact with others while finding out what we need to know to be safe-especially if we have children. But a word of caution, once you are intimately involved, all sense of reality goes out the window. Sex is very powerful, and binds two people “as one.” Intimacy can and will cloud your judgment. Postpone that trip to the altar until you know whom you are joining your life with-it can save your life. A background check cannot reveal the contents of a person’s heart. But you will gain some very valuable character information. Although a speeding ticket may not be an indication of a “bad boy,” a battery charge is definitely a huge RED FLAG!

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And yes, people can by the Grace of God change ungodly behaviors. However, it is a well-established fact that not too many abusers change. The reasons may vary, but the number one reason is-abusers don’t believe they have a problem in the first place. So do we change dating strategies, or keep doing the same thing, and getting the same results? To read more about this terrible tragedy, please click on the following links:

http://www.buddytv.com/articles/megan-wants-a-millionaire/megan-wants-a-millionaire-ryan-30802.aspx

http://www.myfoxla.com/dpp/news/local/Report_Jenkins_Now_Considered_Suspect_20090820

http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/story?id=8380205

(Post on my old blog about background checks)

http://www.spiritual-side-of-domestic-violence.org/inspiration/2009.05.01_arch.html

http://www.seattlepi.com/local/310399_verify05.html

“This assumes that a person has been truthful about providing a correct, searchable name and birth date. So to investigators, turning up nothing at all sounds more warning bells. Almost everyone leaves some sort of paper — or electronic — trail.”

“He wasn’t charged with murder, but after we found the divorce records and spoke with family members, it became clear that this woman hadn’t just ‘disappeared’ like he was telling everyone,” Montgomery said. “That father got on a plane, met his daughter here and told her all the things we had found. She flew off with him and left that guy immediately.”

“Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves;

so be shrewd as serpents and innocent as doves.”

(Matthew 10:16)

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Update on this post


“Millionaire
Murder Suspect Ryan Jenkins Found Dead”

http://www.eonline.com/uberblog/b140794_millionaire_murder_suspect_ryan_jenkins.html

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