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WHY BLACK CHILDREN CAN’T READ

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By Terry Loving

The murder of Bobby Tilman – (stomped to death by his own kind), has sparked heated debates concerning the plight of American Blacks.

Many of the comments about his murder point the finger at disenfranchisement in the Black community; high unemployment; single mothers and absent fathers, etc. Numerous sentiments lament that our public school system has failed our Black children, and our politicians and church leaders have their own personal agendas – money and power.

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Our children look to the rap artists, drug dealers, pimps and thugs for examples of how to become “high rollers” with no need for traditional education. Our communities are infested with crack cocaine, alcoholism, teen pregnancy and deadly violence. Supportive families send their children to school, and pray daily that they will make it back home – alive. They check their kids’ school work, attend parent-teacher meetings, and develop a rapport with the teachers to make sure their kids are doing well. In the meantime, the good kids are competing with wanna-be thugs in the classroom – disrupting and disrespecting the teacher’s authority, and belittling themselves.

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Black children cannot read because they don’t want to, and they don’t have parents that make them. All children will protest when they don’t want to do something, but it is up to the parents to encourage and inspire their children to read, write, learn all they can – most of all – understand what they have read and learned. On the other hand, if their momma can’t read, she is still responsible for finding help for her child.

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Unfortunately, if momma doesn’t understand the importance of her child learning, she will have the attitude that the mother in the movie “Precious” had – “Take your @#$% down to the welfare office.” “Oh, you too good for welfare?” The response should be a resounding “Yes, I am!” And the fathers, where are they? Will this circle be unbroken?

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Chris Rock said that “Books to Black people are like kryptonite to Superman.” “Hide your money in books, Black people don’t read.” Is he wrong? Yes and no. Personally, I love to read, as well as many other Black folk. It is the other element within our race that despise learning. The education is there, and it is free. If you snub your nose at it, then who is to blame when you can’t read an employment application? And what about Black History?

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Why cry about it not being equally taught in the public school system when you can teach it to your kids yourself? Of course the White man doesn’t want you to know who you really are. We as Blacks have more power within ourselves than we realize – especially when we have God on our side. But we are too busy hating and killing one another to harness that power for good.

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It starts at home people! My kids were reading before they entered first grade. The same can be said of my grandchildren. The Black community must make drastic changes with the rearing of our children in order to experience vital changes as a whole. We don’t like to hear about our problems, especially when they are made public.

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News flash – when your teenage son or daughter’s mug shot is on the evening news, there is no more hiding the truth. And yes, other races have their evil to deal with as well, but I am more concerned about my own race at the moment. We are losing a whole generation to violence, drugs, ignorance and ungodliness.

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And please, don’t complain about the other races that come to America and succeed. They have for the most part learned how to get along to the point that 20 family members and friends can live in a two-bedroom house and pool their resources together. I have witnessed this growing up in North Philly. They open up “corner stores” that we support, and go to foreigners for “credit” when we – Blacks, born on American soil – are broke.

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Within my own family, my cousins supported their children, pooled their money together, and sent six children to college, and they all have degrees, and they are living the so-called American Dream. The adults did not always get along or see eye to eye on everything, but they agreed to help their children – even the ones that had no children helped those who did. So don’t blame the system or the White man, look unto yourselves.

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And here’s another thing. Blacks complain about the Asians, Indians, Chinese and others that open a business in their neighborhoods, but they continually support them. You know why they open businesses in our neighborhoods? It is because our race has been dubbed “consumers.”

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Meaning, we spend money as soon as it is in our hands, with no thought for saving or balancing a budget. We as a people do not set positive goals to find our way out of the ghetto. I heard of a woman here in Atlanta bragging about her $500.00 pictures on her wall. And!!!! When you are broke and hungry, material things won’t feed or clothe you.

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Advertisers make sure the non-sensible products find their way to our neighborhoods. Clocks big enough to hang on walls, were at one time hanging around the necks of young Black brothers.  Asians can’t stand us, but they study our ways and habits. And they stock their shelves with products directed at Black Americans. If you don’t believe me, check out the Asian clothing stores in our neighborhoods.

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They produce those embroidered jeans for pennies, and sell them to Blacks for hundreds of dollars. We make other races rich, while we squander our wealth, and feel justified and proud to claim government handouts. We view welfare as an entitlement for 400 years of oppression, when in reality; it is the yoke that keeps too many of us floundering on the bottom of the economic barrel.

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No one is more creative with hair than my Black sisters. You have your shops, and many of you do well financially for sistas’ love to have their hair done. But answer this, why do you spend your money at Asian beauty supply stores? Do you not have enough contacts to buy you own supplies wholesale? You see, we run to other races for our needs instead of finding a way to provide for ourselves.

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We will support our neighborhood Chinese restaurant, convenience store, liquor store, and pay whatever price an item is marked – but with our own Black businesses, we expect the “hook-up.” Go ask a China-man to “hook you up” and see what kind of response you get. Don’t get mad yall, you know this is real.

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Our government makes sure that alcohol is cheap so broke Black people can panhandle enough to drown their sorrows in MD-20/20, Thunderbird, and Tokay (popular when I was growing up). Now we have 40’s, single cans and bottles of beer that are easily purchased. We destroy our brain cells with poison, and kill others that look like us – because we hate ourselves. We bought into the lie that we are the scum of the earth, and we perpetuate the revulsion each time we call each other the “N” word – the label pinned on men and women who were once kings and queens.

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Our spiritual leaders are pimping and lying in the pulpits, preying on sin laden souls that come to them for guidance. They preach watered down sermons that make non-effect (on a human level), the Power of the Word of God. The Black church was the backbone of the Black community at one time – the lure of money changed that. Domestic violence is destroying our homes, our families, and our communities.

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We shake our heads and say, “Where are our leaders – why doesn’t somebody do something?” News flash – no one wants to die for a cause anymore. We look at our race and determine what happened to Malcolm X and Martin Luther King, Jr. isn’t worth happening to us. We just pray that evil doesn’t come knocking on our door, and we keep the blinds closed.

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It is no secret that young Black men who cannot read most likely will live a life of crime. Why? Because they can’t get a job, not because they are Black – but because they cannot fill out the job application, and lack professionalism in speech and demeanor. We accuse one another of trying to “act White,” when that may serve the purpose of infiltrating a system not designed to embrace us as a people. Why not endure what is necessary to learn how to build and operate your own business? Who is to say that we have to work for others for the rest of our lives?

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And often times, those who have good jobs do stupid things to lose them. I worked in a call-center with mostly young Black males and females. They played around, especially when the superiors left the day shift, and spent most of the night milking the clock, doing no work at all. Needless to say, our call center moved to Canada. We were laid off, and I despised each person that played around when they whined about losing their jobs. Where is the work ethic?

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Ignorance and ungodliness killed Bobby Tilman, and it is destroying our race as a whole. It may be too late to rehabilitate those who are incarcerated – at least most of them. The majority of the inmates will be released to commit more crimes, and return to prison where they don’t have to deal with normal responsibility. On the other hand, we can try to save the ones that are trying to lead decent lives. In order to accomplish this, we must address why our young people are so angry. And that begins at home.

Ok, for now – enough said.

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“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. Because you have rejected knowledge, I also will reject you from being My priest. Since you have forgotten the law of your God, I also will forget your children.”

(Hosea 4:6)

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(Note – “Priest in this scripture has nothing to do with the Catholic church. “Knowledge” refers to the true knowledge of God.)

“For God’s sentence on them is, “thou shalt be no priest to me.” But the priests whom Jeroboam consecrated out of other tribes than Levi, were priests not to God, but to the calves. Those then, originally true priests to God, had probably a precarious livelihood, when the true worship of God was deformed by the mixture of the calf-worship, and the people “halted between two opinions;” and so were tempted by poverty also, to withhold from the people unpalatable truth.”

http://bible.cc/hosea/4-6.htm

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Africa: 12 Reasons Why Africans Are Poor, Miserable And Pitiable

“With thinking or creative faculty bestowed upon us we are meant to put our brains to work. But we the Blacks are the least willing or the least able of all the races to put our brains to productive work.

Our refusal, so to say, to use our brains and think out solutions to the challenges confronting us is the number seven reasons why we are the way we are–poor, miserable and pitiable.”

“We Blacks everywhere are too willing to resign ourselves to any situation in which we find ourselves. The Black man can remain in a ghetto environment for centuries without thinking about how to improve his circumstances. Government will not care about him and he will not care about himself. Go to any African country: the same type of grass-thatched round mud house that our ancestors of pre-historic times lived in is the same type of houses many of our people are still living in today. This does not in any way show a people who regard life as a continuing battle to conquer and subdue the earth so we can live a better life than our forebears did. This shows a people who do not sit down and use their brain for their own good.”

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“Adults blame parents for education problems”

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No Future Exists for Black Children Who Cannot Read

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Young Black Men, Read To Lead…

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Why Shakir Can’t Read

“Shakir’s family situation is a significant part of his problem. He is one of four children to a twenty-something mother who has three other children by three different men, and she might well be pregnant again by her current boyfriend. Shakir’s mother is unemployed and on welfare. She and her current boyfriend tend to have loud fights which can become physical, and often her boyfriend, who can be a positive influence on Shakir, will disappear for weeks at a time to avoid doing violence to her. Shakir’s father is currently in prison, scheduled to be released some time later this year; his current stint in prison is not his first, and I fear it is not likely to be his last.”

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If I Was A Poor Black Kid

“If I was a poor black kid I would first and most importantly work to make sure I got the best grades possible. I would make it my #1 priority to be able to read sufficiently.   I wouldn’t care if I was a student at the worst public middle school in the worst inner city.  Even the worst have their best.  And the very best students, even at the worst schools, have more opportunities.  Getting good grades is the key to having more options.  With good grades you can choose different, better paths.  If you do poorly in school, particularly in a lousy school, you’re severely limiting the limited opportunities you have.”

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Why Forbes’ Column Crossed the Line

Middle-class white guy writes about what he would do if he were a poor black kid. Craziness ensues.

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WAITING FOR “SUPERMAN”

Click above link to watch on Netflix, or you can view video on Hulu.

“Synopsis: Documentary filmmaker Davis Guggenheim explores the tragic ways in which the American public education system is failing our nation’s children, and explores the roles that charter schools and education reformers could play in offering hope for the future. We see the statistics every day — students dropping out, science and math scores falling, and schools closing due to lack of funding. What we don’t see are the names and faces of the children whose entire futures are at stake due to our own inability to enact change. There was a time when the American public education system was a model admired by the entire world. Today other countries are surpassing us in every respect, and the slogan “No Child Left Behind” has become a cynical punch line.”

WAITING FOR “SUPERMAN” OFFICIAL SITE

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BLACK WOMEN AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

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Janitor Turned Owner Rescues Failing Ohio Factory

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Posted by on November 21, 2010 in It's A Family Thing

 

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Adult Children Abandoning Parents at Hotels

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When I read this news story, it broke my heart. I realize that times are hard, and many people are struggling financially. But here’s another truth that I have noticed, many grown children do not want to be bothered with their elderly parents. Even before our economy took a turn for the worst, the elderly were discarded in record numbers.

In the past, I have worked in two nursing homes, and visited several with fellow church members. It is my hope that I will die an old lady in my own home, in my own bed. Many of these seniors were abandoned, and rarely if ever had visitors. Some of them could do for themselves, and others were at the mercy of unkind hearts that were only interested in a pay check.

I was blessed to have a grandmother to live well past 100 years. I believe she was 103 when she died – in her own home – in her own bed. At times she would have in-home nursing care. But mostly, two of my aunts looked after her. Sad to say, there were other family members close by, but many didn’t make time to help care for my grandmother. When I could, I would lend a hand.

Both my parents lived in my home at one time or another. It was a difficult job caring for my dad – he was an alcoholic, and had many health problems. The same can be said for my mother, except she was in good health until she passed away from a massive stroke. Taking care of my parents was shared with my siblings, and it was no easy time. Alcoholism is a very selfish disease, and my parents were extremely selfish and self-centered. When it came to their need to drink, our home was filled with chaos and hard feelings.

In response to this article, I could never have dropped my parents off at a motel and left them. For one thing, I had much respect for them, even though they had none for themselves. I grew up with a sense of family in spite of the alcoholism, betrayal, neglect, molestation, etc. I should have had enough bad feelings towards them to not care what happened to them, but I cared. With that said, I guess it depends on what is in your heart towards another that dictates how you will treat them.

It was only after my mother died that I was spiritually enlightened as to her lack of love for me. This may sound harsh, but I am glad it happened after she died. I would not have liked myself very much for lashing out at her. And I don’t know if I could have with any restraint. Therefore, I believe that God planned it that way. In the Judgment, at least I won’t have the mistreatment of my parents to answer for.

Psalm 37:25 says, “I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread.” This is a promise of God, to look after the righteous, even to provide for their children. I am a witness to this promise. God does not lie. There are many promises of God for this life; we just have to believe Him, and strive to obey His Word.

This is not to say that the elderly in this article are un-righteous, but perhaps their offspring are unsaved. Hearts void of empathy will only know selfishness and will not recognize a need to supply. There are many grown children who could take in their parents comfortably, but they are too busy living their lives to care for those who once cared for them. There are many non-Christians who care very much for humanity. It all comes down to the heart.

In conclusion, I depend solely upon God to supply my needs. Even if my own children should fail to provide for me in my golden age, God will provide. The more I deepen my relationship with my Father, the less I worry about my future. This is His desire, that we should worship Him and depend on Him for everything. Most people view God as a Tyrant, but once you get to know His heart, you will change your perception.

Also, we are experiencing the Last Days – very evil times:

You should know this, Timothy that in the last days there will be very difficult times. For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that!

They are the kind who work their way into people’s homes and win the confidence ofvulnerable women who are burdened with the guilt of sin and controlled by various desires. (Such women are forever following new teachings, but they are never able to understand the truth.) These teachers oppose the truth just as Jannes and Jambres opposed Moses. They have depraved minds and a counterfeit faith. But they won’t get away with this for long. Someday everyone will recognize what fools they are, just as with Jannes and Jambres.”

2 Timothy 3:1-9, (New Living Translation)

“The conclusion, when all has been heard, is: fear God and keep His commandments, because this applies to every person.” (Ecclesiastes 12:13 – NASB)

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the LORD your God gives you.”  (Exodus 20:12 – NASB)

“But if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show godliness to their own household and to make some return to their parents, for this is pleasing in the sight of God.”   (1Timothy 5:4 – ESV)

“A father of the fatherless and a judge for the widows, Is God in His holy habitation.”

(Psalm 68:5 – NIV)

Link to the news story: http://www.wftv.com/news/24694944/detail.html?cxntlid=cmg_cntnt_rss

Abandoned Parents

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Posted by on August 24, 2010 in It's A Family Thing

 

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Home Is Where The Hurt Is

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Home. What comes to your mind when you think of the word home? Should this not be a place where you can get away from it all? Leave the cares of the world behind and retreat to that special place? Does a warm feeling come over you when you travel towards home – excited that you are going to a place that you love? Does home represent a place where you can finally be yourself, after putting on a front for co-workers all week? Is it a place where you are accepted, and free to express yourself? Is your home governed by the Will of God, or the depths of hell?

For too many, the latter is the case – hell is unleashed in their homes – daily. If you have ever wondered what it is like to experience hell on earth, ask a person trapped by domestic violence and abuse. Better yet, ask me – been there. It is a feeling like no other – being  afraid to go home. I have experienced the dread both as a child and as an adult. School, playing outside, and visiting family was my escape as a child. Church services, employment, and visiting friends helped me to stomach going home as an adult. As a child I feared coming home to a dead mother. As an adult, I feared going to jail, as I vowed not to live my mother’s life – alcoholism, violence and abuse.

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When my verbally abusive, ex-husband was not at home – super! Life was somewhat normal for my children and I, except for the constant knot in my stomach. I am sure the kids felt their own sense of anxiety; mostly they just tried to be kids. When it was time for my ex to arrive home, the knot in my stomach worsened, and I would always feel like I was going to vomit. Everyone was always on alert for criticism, and braced for the yelling when something was found amiss. It was tough for imperfect people to try to live perfect lives just to please a tyrant. No matter the effort, it was always in vain.

I can only imagine the intensified, hellish environment endured when there are no outside interests. I would have lost my mind if I didn’t have a job to go to, or other activities outside of the home to divert my attention. Even if the trade-off is financial security, I cannot see any woman allowing herself to be beaten so that she can maintain a certain lifestyle – it happens though – frequently.

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Out of the five years of marriage, the last four were my reasons for seeking a divorce. I didn’t want to go to jail, and have my kids taken away from me. Mind you, I am not a violent person, however, I am aware of that “something” deep inside of me that may cause me to snap. I can’t put a name to it, but I know it is there. Some may label it PTSD, I imagine that is possible, especially after all that I have endured. After witnessing my mother and so many women being beat down to nothing, I made up my mind as a child that I was not going to live that way. If it meant that I would have no man in my life at all, so be it! The one year anniversary was the beginning of things going downhill quickly. I knew I had to leave, soon.

I want to share a fictional story with you. Reason being, it depicts the lives of many abused women who are trapped. The story is so real it touched my heart. It is my hope that those who cannot understand why a woman would stay in a hellish situation will also read the story. There is a part one, and part two, as well as mature audience subject matter. After reading this story of a once strong woman stripped of her self-worth, please share your comments on this post. There may be other women who can benefit from your experiences.

http://www.kathrynjaneway2000.com/WhenHomeIsWhereTheHurtIs1.html

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Home should be a safe haven for all people. It is a sad day when love is no longer found at home.

Here is another article worth reading:

“Mary never knew what would trigger her husband’s rages. One evening he spotted rotting lettuce in the refrigerator. Furious, the Charlotte, N.C., bank executive threw her to the floor and jammed her head into the vegetable bin. Tami first found out about the dark side of her husband, a young California minister, when she placed a cassette into the tape player backward. Suddenly livid, he grabbed her by the hair and threw her against the wall. Recalls Sue Ellen, whose college-professor lover left her with broken bones in her face, hand and foot: “I was like a wounded animal. I crawled into a hole. It was so horrible I couldn’t believe it.”

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Better a bit of dry bread in peace, than a house full of feasting and violent behaviour.
Proverbs 17:1 – (Bible In Basic English Version)
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Better is a dish of vegetables where love is than a fattened ox served with hatred.
Proverbs 15:17 – (NASB)
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WHEN IT’S TIME TO LEAVE – Resources
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VIOLENCE IN OUR HOMES

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KEEPING OUR HOMES SAFE

THE SHADE TREE – Sheltering women, their children and pets.

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Your Family Suffers With You

It is a horrible thing to witness one of your loved ones being abused, while you sit helplessly by-fuming and afraid. Oh sure, you could take the law into your own hands and beat up or kill the scum who beats your daughter, mother, or sister. But is that wise? Is violence begetting violence really the answer? Sadly, there are countless family members, including sons and daughters serving jail time for defending an abused loved one. Is beating up or killing the one who terrorizes your loved one really the answer?

As a child, I witnessed my own mother being beaten and abused in the most horrific manner. If memory serves me correctly, I witnessed her abuse from the age of five to my teen years. I knew she was still being abused when I became grown and moved away from home. But the impact wasn’t the same as what I witnessed as a child. At some point in my adult life, I concluded that she could not be helped-if she chose not to help herself.

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Eventually my mother left her life of violence and moved in with one of my brothers. But she didn’t live long enough to enjoy her freedom from domestic violence. She died at the age of 57 from a massive brain hemorrhage. She had high-blood pressure, but never took her medication as she should have.

There was a time, when one of my uncles beat up one of her many abusers. Needless to say, a man who beats on a woman most likely will not fight another man. The abuser did not fight my uncle back, but eventually took his own beating out on my mother. I never saw my uncle run interference again after that incident, for I conclude that he had given up trying to help my mother.

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When my oldest brother tried to defend my mother, he was shot at and chased away from our residence. We were all living with my mother’s abuser at the time, so he put my brother out of the house with nowhere to live. Prior to this, my brother broke the abuser’s jaw, and put him in the hospital for beating my mother. He paid the price of being homeless, and almost being shot, hurt or dead himself.

The point I am driving home with this post is, abused women are not the only ones affected by the injustice that they suffer. Domestic violence is akin to the domino effect. If an abused woman has children, they suffer in many ways. Many children become a bed-wetter, develop nightmares, fears, anxiety and anger, etc. When momma is wounded, so are her children-sometimes physically, but most definitely spiritually, psychology, socially, and emotionally. And the sad part is, many children carry a lift-time of scars from witnessing the abuse of their parents.

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As a mother, it would be very difficult not to desire revenge on your daughter’s abuser. Especially when he scars her physically, mentally and emotionally. To save her, you think of ways to get rid of him, but fear the consequences of possible incarceration. But in many other ways, you fear this brute just as much as your daughter does-if not more. Whenever you hear of the death of another victim of domestic violence, your heart sinks for you know full well that could be you one day identifying your child in the morgue.

I had often wished that my mother understood how much her family cared about her, and that those who loved her suffered as well. Most times, it isn’t until a woman successfully leaves an abusive situation that she reflects on how much emotional turmoil her family has endured along with her. Many nights of lost sleep, anxiety, crying, fear, and thoughts of revenge linger for years.

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Family members, especially members of an immediate family are next in the line of fire-both directly and indirectly. When they step in to rescue the battered woman, anything can and often does happen. I personally have had an abused family member turn on ME after trying to help her free herself from the abuse.

In this situation, I was beside myself when I saw her swollen eye, and many bruises. I was livid! And I wanted revenge. As I hunted this person down, along with a good friend of mine, all I could think of was, “He has to be dealt with.” Imagine two females, armed with a hammer and a straight razor, riding down the mean streets of Camden New Jersey looking for the perpetrator.

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Fear was not an option, and I was beside myself. We didn’t find him, but later on this family member called me and told me to bug off! She mentioned that she saw my car circling the neighborhood, and she and her abuser were keeping out of sight. Ok, I was more upset than you can imagine. And I told her, “Give your friends my phone number so that I can come and claim your body when he kills you!” After that, I tried very hard to go on with my life, and it took a great while before I could. Prior to this incident, I had nightmares, flashbacks of my mother’s abuse, and I wanted to do something about it. As a child I was helpless to do anything, but as an adult, I was willing to play the part of rescuer.

To this day I thank God that I never found that man. I don’t know what would have happened, but I believe that God protected me, my friend, and even the perpetrator. From that day on, I just prayed for my family member, and learned to let go. Eventually she left him, but her self-worth has been damaged for life. I say this because she still chooses companions that are not in her best interest.

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I pray this day that any person-male or female who is being abused, that you will consider your family. Think really hard about your children, and know that domestic violence affects all who care about you. You are the first domino in line, and when you fall, there are others who will fall with you-emotionally, mentally, physically and in many other ways. Domestic violence is no longer a “private matter.” Even if the violence doesn’t spill outside of your closed doors, the devastation is far reaching.

I won’t say it “isn’t fair” that your family is suffering along with you. For this simple reason-you need help, and you may be in denial that you need it. You may not be fully aware of the fact that you don’t have to continue to live this way, and you do deserve much better. It may take you years to break free, and I pray to God that you will, for not many do. But know this, there is someone who cares about you. First of all, God cares about you, and Jesus cares so much that He died for YOU!

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If you shun those who are trying to help you now, they may not be there where you are truly ready to flee your violent prison. There is a mother or father somewhere praying for you. A child crying for you. A brother willing to fight for you. A sister that needs you to live. And a whole new life ahead of you.

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LET US PRAY

Father God, most gracious, loving and kind, hear this prayer on behalf of the abused and their families. Deliver the mother’s, father’s, children, and other family members who are crying out for justice, and seeking revenge for the abused. Help them to know that vengeance belongs to You and You alone! Your Word says, “I shall repay!”

I pray that strength is bestowed upon those who are mistreated, to find a way out of the madness. Domestic violence is not Your Will, or Your Way Father, and I pray that those who practice violence will be called to give an account in this life. Touch the hearts of those who offend, and turn their violence into harmony and peace.

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For those who have been devastated by violence, I pray for Your peace, mercy and grace to shine upon their lives-both now and forevermore. Bless the children that are witnessing the violence to not grown up and repeat this vicious cycle. Let those who suffer in silence find their voice of courage to break forth with the truth.

Those who are spiritually blind Father, please open their spiritual hearts and understanding to know what Your perfect Will is for their lives. Help them to know that there is truly Power in the Blood of Christ, and they can overcome a life of violence.

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Help the abused to understand that we are living in a dying world, and time as we know it is not long. Some day You will send Your Son Jesus to end all suffering upon the earth, and wickedness will cease to be. In the meantime, their lives are precious to You. And You have an assignment for each and every one of us, and it is not a life of violence.

Call Your children unto You oh God, and let them drink of Your Living Water. Bind the Word of God within their hearts, souls and minds, and help them to experience true peace. Most of all, I pray that our churches will begin to reach out to the abused, and show more concern for their welfare. Give Your ministers of the gospel courage to call domestic violence what it is-SIN! It is wrong-doing, period! In and out of the church.
Forgive us Dear Father for our many sins, in word, thought and in deed.

In the name of Jesus I pray,
AMEN!

 
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Posted by on June 21, 2009 in It's A Family Thing

 

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