01 Aug

By Terry Loving

As a former member of Hillcrest Church of Christ, I was saddened by the passing of my Brother in Christ – Donald “Don” Perry. When I saw his picture on Yahoo news, I remembered his hearty laughter, his warm handshakes, and his infectious smile. His deep hearty voice stayed with me over the years. I remember when it was announced that his son Jason was going to college, and how super proud this made Brother Perry and his family. I was happy for them, even from a distance.


It really breaks my heart to read the hurtful comments, and the hate filled venom written in cyberspace concerning his death. S. Truett Cathy Founder and Chairman, of Chick-fil-A makes a statement concerning his spiritual beliefs, and opposer’s are wishing hell fire and suffering on Brother Perry. I really do not get it. Is this still America? Are we still in the land of the free to express our opinions? Have we not the right to choose to serve God, or not believe if we desire? I have yet to read anywhere that Mr. Cathy or Brother Perry was forcing their spiritual beliefs on anyone.


As a fellow American and a Christian, I do not support gay marriage, and I do not hate gays. I have a lesbian cousin whom I love dearly. I have had gay male friends, and we all respected our different views without hate. My gay friend “Buzzy” died of a heart attack at the age of 40. I shared with him what the Bible says about homosexuals, and he shared with me how he felt about his lifestyle. Did we fall out and stop loving each other? No! My other gay friend who is probably dead from AIDS by now – same thing with him. We talked about it, but agreed to live our free will – gay and straight.


My point is this – in the end – God will set the record straight. There is no need for hate.

I admit that some Christians make it hard for other Christians to live in this world. Religious fanatics will always be a part of our culture, and I personally wish it wasn’t so. But please understand this, true Christians are commanded to speak the Word of God, and do so with love – but not in a timid fashion. Does this mean that we are allowed to hurt feelings and step on toes when dealing with those who do not share our beliefs? – Not at all. It happens, but it doesn’t make it right. Mr. Cathy’s statement opposing same sex marriage did not – in my opinion – “discriminate” against gays.


If Christians take a stand against domestic abusers, does this mean that we are discriminating against them? How about alcoholism – are we discriminating against those who drink when we speak as God speaks concerning this evil? I have witnessed from childhood what alcoholism does to a family. It dies a horrible slow death. Should we not warn those who live the opposite of what the Bible teaches? We as Christians are commanded to do so, or be held accountable:

King James 2000 Bible (©2003)
“Cry aloud, spare not, lift up your voice like a trumpet, and show my people their transgression, and the house of Jacob their sins.”

Ezekiel 3:18 “When I say to a wicked man, ‘You will surely die,’ and you do not warn him or speak out to dissuade him from his evil ways in order to save his life, that wicked man will die for his sin, and I will hold you accountable for his blood.”


Does this mean that we are perfect? No, for me it means, “I was blind but now I see.”

The Bible is called “Good News” for God made provisions through the Blood of Christ to save our miserable souls. The “Good News” is we do not have to spend eternity in the devils hell. We can have life eternal with God and our Lord Jesus. It is our right to choose, God gave us this right to live or die spiritually.


There are ignorant people saying that Don Perry died as a result of God’s judgment for his opinions. How stupid is that. Especially when this heated debate did not originate with Don in the first place. Humans are so quick to jump on bandwagons in ignorance when it comes to the things of God. But hey – no one is protesting the slavery and mistreatment of those who gather and process coco beans so Americans can enjoy their chocolate. This country enjoys much on the backs of underpaid, not paid, enslaved workers who provide much labor to produce our goods that we take for granted. But do we balk? Never! Only when the things of God are on the table do people get up in arms. Why? – Because America is on a moral decline, and the slope is getting more slippery day by day.


The Bible warns that in the Last Days it will be like this. Light and darkness have always been in opposition. Darkness is trying to take over, for the light is dim and uninterested in shining for the Lord. In other words, many Christians love the world too much to stand up for God and His Word.


And let me say this; of all the gay people I have known and loved, none of them bullied their way in our society to have the spotlight shine on them. They worked, wrote plays, were doctors, mothers and lived quiet lives. We were able to love one another because we did not try to impose our beliefs and our wills on each other. I guess it is just the way I see things. I will not miss an opportunity to speak the Word of God, but I will not hate anyone who is living a lifestyle not according to His Word. At the same time, I will not allow anyone who is gay to try to persuade me that what they are doing is right. I stand with God on this issue. And certainly no abuser can convince me that God gave him the right to chastise his wife. When you learn to agree to disagree, there is no cause for hate.


Don and Marilyn Perry

To the Perry family, I offer my heartfelt condolences. To those who question Don’s standing with God, you have no right. I was there when he worshiped. I saw his heart, and you are wrong to condemn a man for something that did not originate with him. His death isn’t about “the chickens coming home to roost.” His death isn’t about “karma.” You make jokes about his death while his family mourns. You people are so sad. You know nothing about this man personally, and yet you condemn him to hell. Sad.


Lastly, everyone seems to have an agenda that they are trying to get others to accept.

“Chad Griffin, president of the Human Rights Campaign, which supports same-sex marriage, told the AP Thursday that Chick-fil-A “has finally come clean.”

Now who lit the match?


“The Chick-fil-A culture and service tradition in our restaurants is to treat every person with honor, dignity and respect — regardless of belief, creed and sexual orientation,” spokesman Don Perry said.

“We will continue this tradition in the over 1,600 restaurants run by independent Owner/Operators. Going forward, our intent is to leave the policy debate over same-sex marriage to the government and political arena,” he added.




King James 2000 Bible (©2003)
“This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.”


Hosea 14:9 “Who is wise? He will realize these things. Who is discerning? He will understand them. The ways of the LORD are right; the righteous walk in them, but the rebellious stumble in them.”


New American Standard Bible (©1995)
“If it is disagreeable in your sight to serve the LORD, choose for yourselves today whom you will serve: whether the gods which your fathers served which were beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living; but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”



Posted by on August 1, 2012 in Preaching The Pure Word Of God!


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5 responses to “REST IN PEACE “DON PERRY”

  1. delbertdelbert

    August 1, 2012 at 9:05 am

    Hi, Terry, your post about Mr. Donald Perry is powerful. The discussion presented is well organized and flows superbly. You have and, with efficiency, accounted your views regarding the particular views of Mr. Perry, and the oppositions taken by others, in the Christian community.

    I was baptized as Catholic in childhood, but also attended various churches throughout my town and the town nearby. Today, I never attend services, but read the Bible each night. I agree that everyone has a human/living right to believe and worship as he/she desires, and though others have a right to fault the other regarding different beliefs, this right should never be used to wrongly or inaccurately accuse.

    If there truly is a God then surely He/She would love everyone and regardless the individual’s systems of beliefs. “Man takes a God-like stance,” but no man can be God.

    In the human world learning is passed down, from word of mouth, books, and various other mediums. We are (empty) vessels to be filled, and regarding religion, my opinion, we cannot truly know the actual TRUTH; all is supposition, preconceived, wives tales, and the “Word,” as we are told it to be. Respectfully, the Bible, and every Bible, was/is written and is updated by men; every writer interposes, inserts a bit of himself (characteristically) in his works.

    That is to say, we cannot know the actual word of God without having been in His/Her presence, and during the time of the statement. Generationally, the Word of God is re-uttered by man, and no man is perfect; therefore, what then of the “Word”?

    As you have eloquently written, Terry, we must endeavor to respect each other as individuals, and as members of a race of (different) people. Differences are never by themselves problematic, the “hellfire” occurs (only) after inserting the human mind.

  2. ssofdv

    August 1, 2012 at 12:54 pm

    Hello Delbert,

    As always, I thank you for your thoughtful comments. And thank you for your compliments.

    Each of us are the sum total of life learning and teachings passed down. Our life experiences form our opinions and lifestyles of which may have been forced, or accepted as “this is just the way life is.”

    God gave mankind free will. I respect that.

    There are situations and conditions of humanity that we should cry aloud and speak out against. That is why this blog exists – to denounce abuse.

    As previously stated, …”in the end – God will set the record straight. There is no need for hate.”


  3. ssofdv

    August 2, 2012 at 8:34 pm

    Same-Sex Couple Invites Chick-fil-A CEO To Dinner–abc-news-politics.html

    “After hundreds of thousands of people ate dinner at his restaurants on Wednesday for Chick-fil-A Appreciation Day, one Georgia family, a same-sex couple and their two daughters, has invited Chick-fil-A CEO Dan Cathy to have dinner at their house.”

    Ya know, I really do not understand why members of the gay community insist upon Christians accepting their lifestyle. Why do they need such validation? Straight people do not need to be validated for being straight, so why the big hoop-la? Could it be that they know their alternate lifestyle is unacceptable to the masses as a whole? Why must the gay community try to force those who do not agree with them to conform?

    Personally, I cannot see Mr. Cathy accepting this dinner invitation. It would surely signal that he is not really convicted in his beliefs, and his faith in the Word of God is weakening. If he did accept, which I doubt – what message would he send to other Christians who stand with God – homosexuality is an abomination according to the Bible.

    I consider myself a pretty tolerant person of the differences in others, but when it comes to aggression, I have a problem with that. The dinner on the surface is meant to seem innocent, but underneath there is a spiritual stronghold trying to anchor in the hearts of those who agree with God that the gay lifestyle is sinful, as well as many other things that humans do.

    This situation is more spiritual than we realize. Light and darkness is clashing once again. The god of this world is using the gay platform to cause confusion and division. This is an attack on the principles of the Almighty.

    “I hope Mr. Cathy will join my family for dinner, where we can share a respectful dialogue about our faith, work and families here in Georgia,” Alt said in a statement. “It’s important that Mr. Cathy meet the people his company is donating millions to stand against.”

    OK so then what?

    Atlanta is part of the so-called Bible Belt, and Atlanta is also known for its massive gay community – light and darkness cannot abide in a peaceful manner. This is spiritual warfare, and Christians must continue to stand with God. The scriptures following is why I can be neutral and not hate:

    Tares among Wheat

    24Jesus presented another parable to them, saying, “The kingdom of heaven may be compared to a man who sowed good seed in his field. 25“But while his men were sleeping, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat, and went away. 26“But when the wheat sprouted and bore grain, then the tares became evident also. 27“The slaves of the landowner came and said to him, ‘Sir, did you not sow good seed in your field? How then does it have tares?’ 28“And he said to them, ‘An enemy has done this!’

    The slaves said to him, ‘Do you want us, then, to go and gather them up?’ 29“But he said, ‘No; for while you are gathering up the tares, you may uproot the wheat with them. 30‘Allow both to grow together until the harvest; and in the time of the harvest I will say to the reapers, “First gather up the tares and bind them in bundles to burn them up; but gather the wheat into my barn.”’”

    I don’t have to fight, push, pull, tug and wrestle with others about how they choose to live or what they believe. As far as I am concerned, living the gay lifestyle is their Judgment Day issue.

    This is America – leave Mr. Cathy alone! You have a right to live gay; he has a right to live Christian. Your subtle persuasion will fail. If God be for us, who can be against us?


    • ssofdv

      August 2, 2012 at 8:43 pm

      P.S. Mr. Cathy did not stand on a mountain top and shout out his beliefs. He was responding to a question in an interview. He was not pushing a personal agenda. He was responding as the Bible says that Christians should respond when people question our faith:

      King James 2000 Bible (©2003)

      “But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asks you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:” 1 Peter 3:15

  4. ssofdv

    August 2, 2012 at 9:36 pm

    1 Samuel 15:29

    “He who is the Glory of Israel does not lie or change his mind; for he is not a man, that he should change his mind.”

    Psalm 89:34

    “I will not violate my covenant or alter what my lips have uttered.”


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