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ABUSERS – ARE THEY EVIL?

23 Jan

By Terry Loving

Psalm 28:3 “Do not drag me away with the wicked, with those who do evil, who speak cordially with their neighbors but harbor malice in their hearts.”

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“As one abuser put it to me so well some years ago, we do it because it gets us what we want!  Entitlement thinking.  I can steal, lie, cheat others to get what I want also having been a victim, I have the knowledge and the ability to do that.  I can choose to kill this person for what they done to me also.  I chose not to.  I choose not to simply because it is wrong to do that to others to get me what I want or to seek revenge.  However, these people choose not to love or be understanding or caring most of the time to get what they need so I say yeah, they are EVIL.  Where I have I been?  Is there a new definition for evil now that I haven’t heard of in my 50 something years????  Is there something out there WORSE THAN THESE MEN?  These men lie, cheat, beat, steal your very soul and life away and many of them do murder their victims so what is MORE EVIL than this?  Please help we victims of these people to understand what is MORE EVIL than this if it is NOT EVIL??????!!!!  Thanks.” 1

Evil? Yes. – Once a victim – Apr 30th 2009

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I recently read an interesting article entitled, People Who Abuse, Are they Evil?” According to the author, Allan Schwartz, Ph.D., we should “try to understand people who abuse rather than simply engage in condemnation.” He further states: “There are many postings and comments from our readers about physical and emotional abuse. All of these comments are valuable and important. However, there is a trend among some of the comments towards hating those who abuse and judging them to be evil.” Also, Mr. Schwartz asks the following:

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“Are too many of us perhaps too fast to yell, “Hang ’em from the highest tree,” when we hear about abuse? Does abusing the abuser do anything for him or the rest of us? Is it not true that they need effective help instead of punishment?”

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I agree that abusers need help, but they also need to suffer the consequences of their actions. It is well documented that many abusers have been abused as children, and live what they learned. However, abuse is still a choice, and past hurts in my opinion are excuses to vent anger and pain towards those who have not contributed to the hurt. But the main question that begs an answer is, “Are abusers evil?” First, let us define the word “evil.”

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ADJECTIVE

1. morally bad: profoundly immoral or wrong

2. harmful: deliberately causing great harm, pain, or upset

“This evil act is clearly the work of terrorists.”

3. causing misfortune: characterized by, bringing, or signifying bad luck

“an evil omen”

4. malicious: characterized by a desire to cause hurt or harm

“an evil mood”

5. devilish: connected with the devil or other powerful destructive forces

evil spirits

6. disagreeable: very unpleasant

“What an evil smell!”

 NOUN

e•vils plural

1. wickedness: the quality of being profoundly immoral or wrong

2. force causing harmful effects: the force believed to bring about harmful, painful, or unpleasant events

“a struggle between good and evil”

3. something evil: a situation or thing that is very unpleasant, harmful, or morally wrong

“the social evil of alcoholism”

[ Old English yfel < Indo-European, “exceeding due limits” ]

e•vil•ly ADVERB

e•vil•ness NOUN

Synonyms: wicked, malevolent, sinful, malicious, criminal, immoral

Synonyms: foul, vile, nasty, horrible, unpleasant, revolting, disgusting, obnoxious

ADJECTIVE

Antonyms: good, pleasant 2

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In light of the above definitions, would you disagree that abusers are “morally bad: profoundly immoral or wrong?” Are they not “harmful,” “deliberately causing great harm, pain, or upset?” Has not domestic violence been equated with “terrorism?” Abusers often cause “misfortune” for their families, do they not? The actions of abusers are quite “malicious” and they “desire to cause hurt or harm” – isn’t this so? Some of the most heinous crimes committed by abusers are described as “devilish” and connected to “evil spirits” – wouldn’t you agree? Surely no one can dispute the fact that abusers are “disagreeable” and “very unpleasant.”

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Because “evil” is associated with demons, hell, Satan, the occult, and other forms of darkness – we shy away from labeling domestic abusers as “evil” persons. We tend to reason that because many abusers have been mistreated as children, or witnessed abuse in their homes, they have been conditioned to handle stress factors the same way their abusive fathers did. Or, they learned to treat women as second class citizens from granddaddy on down to papa. Many abusers may not be on The Exorcist level of evil – head spinning around, levitating, and killing every Priest that tries to exorcise the demons out of them. However, the acts they commit according to the definitions above put them in the category of being evil persons, committing evil acts. Abusers exhibit behaviors that are opposite of what is “good” and “pleasant.”

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“Goodness has existed as an attribute of God from all eternity. While God is perfectly holy and just, He is also perfectly good. Just as God has always existed, so too has goodness as it is a facet of God’s holy character. The same cannot be said for evil. Evil came into being with the rebellion of Satan and subsequently entered the physical universe with the fall of Adam. As Christian apologist Greg Koukl has said, “Human freedom was used in such a way as to diminish goodness in the world, and that diminution, that lack of goodness, that is what we call evil.” When God created Adam, He created him good, and He also created him free.” 3

“As Christian philosopher J.P. Moreland has noted, “Evil is a lack of goodness. It is goodness spoiled. You can have good without evil, but you cannot have evil without good.”

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Now we will look at a Biblical definition – KJV Dictionary Definition

E’VIL, n. Evil is natural or moral. Natural evil is any thing which produces pain, distress, loss or calamity, or which in any way disturbs the peace, impairs the happiness, or destroys the perfection of natural beings.

Moral evil is any deviation of a moral agent from the rules of conduct prescribed to him by God, or by legitimate human authority; or it is any violation of the plain principles of justice and rectitude.

There are also evils called civil, which affect injuriously the peace or prosperity of a city or state; and political evils, which injure a nation, in its public capacity.

All wickedness, all crimes, all violations of law and right are moral evils. Diseases are natural evils, but they often proceed from moral evils. 4

Matthew 7:16  says, “By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles?

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Abusers produce “fruit” of pain and misery. And in too many instances, they murder their victims. From what we have concluded thus far, is it safe to say that abusers are “evil?” Are their abusive acts not “criminal?” In my humble opinion, there are abusers that can be helped, but others – I am not so sure this is possible. The abusive husband in the movie “ENOUGH” is a typical example of male entitlement. At the core of domestic abuse is sexism, and mindsets that demean and reduce women to a common denominator of nothingness. Until men change the distorted way they view God’s feminine creation, abuse will never stop.

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Personally I believe that many abusers are evil, to the magnitude of being guided by Satan himself. Syeed Hasan Sumon was one of those abusers who I believe Satan possessed. What he did to his wife was evil – “pressed his fingers into her eyes, gouging them out. According to Monzur, he gnawed at her cheek, lips, and nose, biting off bits of flesh, blood spilling throughout the room as Monzur flailed.” And  he did this in front of their young child.

Bangladesh wife-mauling suspect Sumon found dead

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Nathaniel Lawton allowed his jealousy to murder his girlfriend, Carol Rhim. According to the news account, Lawton “dismembered her body, then shot and killed himself when the police showed at his apartment.” Nathaniel knew what he was doing and what he intended – he went to the store to buy “tarp” and a “hacksaw.”

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“When men become evil in themselves, they necessarily become evil in thought and deed toward others. This they bring upon themselves, or give way to, till God shall give “them up unto a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not fitting” (Rom 1:28). Those thus fallen into habits of error, we should in meekness correct, that “they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him unto his will” (2 Tim 2:25,26).

http://www.bible-history.com/isbe/E/EVIL/

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Matthew Henry’s Concise Commentary

“7:14-23 Our wicked thoughts and affections, words and actions, defile us, and these only. As a corrupt fountain sends forth corrupt streams, so does a corrupt heart send forth corrupt reasonings, corrupt appetites and passions, and all the wicked words and actions that come from them. A spiritual understanding of the law of God, and a sense of the evil of sin, will cause a man to seek for the grace of the Holy Spirit, to keep down the evil thoughts and affections that work within.”

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In conclusion, it is not a pleasant thought to think of the one you love – who abuses you – as evil. Unfortunately, their actions are “morally evil,” and evil is as evil does.

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Clarke’s Commentary on the Bible

“Evil shall slay the wicked – The very thing in which they delight shall become their bane and their ruin.”

“They that hate the righteous – All persecutors of God’s people shall be followed by the chilling blast of God’s displeasure in this world; and if they repent not, shall perish everlastingly.”

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“For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood (man), but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world-rulers of this darkness, against the spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places (demons).”

Ephesians 6:12

Psalm 53:4  “Will the evildoers never learn–those who devour my people as men eat bread and who do not call on God?”

Proverbs 29:10  “Bloodthirsty men hate a man of integrity and seek to kill the upright.”

Psalm 34:14 “Turn from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it.”

Matthew 13:41 “The Son of Man will send out his angels, and they will weed out of his kingdom everything that causes sin and all who do evil.”

1http://www.mentalhelp.net/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=28759&cn=2

2 http://www.bing.com/Dictionary/search?q=define+evil&qpvt=evil+definition&FORM=DTPDIA

3http://www.gotquestions.org/definition-of-evil.html

4 http://av1611.com/kjbp/kjv-dictionary/evil.html

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Monster in the mirror

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Horrific Crime In W. Virginia Involves WNY Native

“As we start to learn more of the unspeakable horror that took place behind an apartment door in Institute, the woman who says she was forced to watch it all is trying to cope with the ordeal. She’s hopeful she can somehow, someway find closure.

She says she had to watch as Nathaniel Lawton dismembered his girlfriend, Carol Rhim in front of her.

“I was just hysterical. I mean I was shaking. I didn’t let him know because I didn’t know what he would have done to me you know what I’m saying and everything? So I had to go along with it,” explained the witness.”

“I seen him cut her head off, her whole body and everything. It was bad, it was. I was afraid. I didn’t say anything, I just went along with it. I had to play it to the “T” because if not, he was going to hurt me too,” said the witness.”

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UPDATE: Search Called Off in Ohio For Murder Victim’s Remains, Daughter Speaks Out

“Investigators say Nathaniel Lawton killed his girlfriend, Carol, last Tuesday. Then, deputies say Lawton cut her body into pieces and then tried to hide them.”

“Investigators found some of her remains in the trunk of Lawton’s car shortly after he shot and killed himself.”

“Since last Thursday deputies have been searching nearly 40 miles of Route 35 from Point Pleasant all the way to Jackson, Ohio, but they haven’t found anything.”

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – A WORLDWIDE EPIDEMIC

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THERE IS ANOTHER SIDE

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ABUSERS – GOD IS NOT LISTENING TO YOU

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12 Hours of Terror: Conn. Woman Held Hostage by Arsonist Ex

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Prosecutor: Many threats before Hudson killings

“CHICAGO (AP) — The man accused of killing Oscar winner Jennifer Hudson‘s mother, brother and 7-year-old nephew had threatened to kill members of the family at least two dozen times before the October 2008 slayings, a prosecutor said during a Friday hearing in Chicago.”

He told his wife – “‘If you ever leave me, I’m going to kill you, but I’m going to kill your family first,'” McKay said at the hearing. “‘You will be the last to die.'”

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The Danger Assessment

The Danger Assessment helps to determine the level of danger an abused woman has of being killed by her intimate partner. It is free and available to the public. Using the Danger Assessment requires the weighted scoring and interpretation that is provided after completing the training. The Danger Assessment is available in a variety of languages.

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http://www.spiritual-side-of-domestic-violence.org

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Posted by on January 23, 2012 in SATANIC INFLUENCE

 

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