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ABUSERS – GOD IS NOT LISTENING TO YOU!

02 May

by Terry Loving

Isaiah 1:15 – “When you spread out your hands in prayer, I will hide my eyes from you; even if you offer many prayers, I will not listen. Your hands are full of blood;”

“Under every other system of religion but the Christian system, woman has been regarded as in every way inferior to man. Christianity teaches that, in respect to her higher interests, the interests of religion, she is every way his equal. She is entitled to all the hopes and promises which religion imparts. She is redeemed as he is. She is addressed in the same language of tender invitation. She has the same privileges and comforts which religion imparts here, and she will be elevated to the same rank and privileges in heaven.” 1  

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I don’t know if any abusers visit my blog or not. Just in case – this post is for you. The Holy Spirit will speak to male abusers in this post, however, female abusers – know that this applies to you as well – especially if you claim to follow Christ.

Whatever makes you miserable inside, you are compounding your wretchedness – especially those of you who claim to be Christians. If you are a believer in any capacity – preacher, song leader, husband, deacon – whatever – don’t waste your time praying to a Holy God with anger in your heart.  You can pray as eloquently as you may, but sad to inform you – GOD IS NOT LISTENING TO YOU!

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If you ever wonder why your prayers aren’t answered, look unto yourself. You can blame your spouse, your children, your employer – whoever. Truth is, your violence and abuse against your loved ones has closed the windows of heaven, and God has turned His back on the sin that you commit in His presence. Don’t waste your time begging and pleading with God, or offering Him unholy prayers from your darkened hearts. Your petitions will not be acknowledged let alone granted.

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“In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7

In this chapter, Peter first addressed the wives – then husbands, all Christians, and how we should suffer for doing good – not wrong. Exhibiting violence and abuse towards your wife is not treating her “as you should.” She is your “equal partner,” not your slave, doormat, punching bag or verbal whipping post. When you mistreat your spouse, you do not “understand” your position and responsibility in Christ as a husband, or spiritual leader.

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Your wife should be shown “honor” as a fellow heir of spiritual blessings and eternal life. Instead, you follow the ways of the world – use and abuse one whom Christ has shed His blood for. Our Lord did not die only for your sake, but for everyone that ever existed and will exist upon the earth. His sacrifice includes your wife – one whom He has loved long before she met you.

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“Honor your wives as those who share God’s life-giving kindness so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.” Did you get that abusers? Your wicked actions “interfere with your prayers.” YOUR ACTIONS! It isn’t the mistakes or inadequacies of your wife that hinders your prayers; it is your negative and ungodly response that God is not pleased with. It is your worldly, misinformed mindset concerning women in general that gets you in trouble with God. Your daddy may view women as second-classed citizens, but not so with our Creator.

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“In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” Ephesians 5:28

You are abusive to your wife because you don’t love yourself. Your self-loathing is projected upon those whom God has placed in your care, and you commit all sorts of evil that God turns His back on. You can blame your childhood, and all the bad things that may or may not have happened to you. But the bottom line is this; you are still accountable to God for your actions.

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“For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.” Here is your command, as well as your test. Can you really love as deeply as Christ has loved you? Do you have it in you to give up your life for your wife? Christ loved the church so much, He died for her. Would you die for your wife? If you answered “No” to either question, sadly, you do not know what true love is all about. It is about sacrifice, not tyranny. It is about serving, not demanding to be served.

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“Married men, love your wives, as Christ also loved the Church and gave Himself up to death for her;”

“Even as Christ loved the church – This was the strongest love that has ever been evinced in this world. It follows, that a husband is in no danger of loving his wife too much, provided she be not loved more than God. We are to make the love which Christ had for the church the model. And gave himself for it – Gave himself to die to redeem it.”

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“It is the duty of the husband to toil for her support; to provide for her needs; to deny himself of rest and ease, if necessary, in order to attend on her in sickness to go before her in danger; to defend her if she is in peril; and to be ready to die to save her Why should he not be? If they are shipwrecked, and there is a single plank on which safety can be secured, should he not be willing to place her on that, and see her safe at all hazards to himself? But there may be more implied in this than that a man is to toil, and even to lay down his life for the welfare of his wife. Christ laid down his life to save the church; and a husband should feel that it should be one great object of his life to promote the salvation of his wife.”

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“He is bound so to live as not to interfere with her salvation, but so as to promote it in every way possible. He is to furnish her all the “facilities” that she may need, to enable her to attend on the worship of God; and to throw no obstacles in her way.”

Thus we find that the authority of the man over the woman is founded on his love to her, and this love must be such as to lead him to risk his life for her.

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 “There will be failures and defects on both sides, in the present state of human nature, yet this does not alter the relation. All the duties of marriage are included in unity and love. And while we adore and rejoice in the condescending love of Christ, let husbands and wives learn hence their duties to each other. Thus the worst evils would be prevented, and many painful effects would be avoided.”

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Colossians 3:19  “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”

Ephesians 5:33  “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

What woman would not love and respect a husband that loves like Christ loves? Much emphasis is placed on “submission” of the woman, which creates an awful burden on a marriage – for; the husband does not love his wife as he should. When the windows of heaven close, take a look within.

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“Seeking God’s direction involves a pattern that begins with cleansing—in other words, the first place to look is at ourselves. Ask, “Father, do You see anything in my life that might interfere with my understanding what You are saying?” Sin shuts down the guidance process: it strangles the power flowing from the Holy Spirit and thereby clouds our judgment (1 Thess. 5:19). First John 1:9 tells us that God cleanses unrighteousness when we confess our sins. The Bible also contains a clear warning for those who refuse to relinquish a rebellious habit or attitude—the Lord does not hear their cries (Ps. 66:18). As He brings to mind problem areas, lay them before the cross.” 2

John 9:31We know that God does not listen to sinners. He listens to the godly man who does his will.”

Deuteronomy 1:45  “You came back and wept before the LORD, but he paid no attention to your weeping and turned a deaf ear to you.

Proverbs 1:28 “Then they will call to me but I will not answer; they will look for me but will not find me.

Psalm 18:41 “They cried for help, but there was no one to save them–to the LORD, but he did not answer.

1 http://bible.cc/1_peter/3-7.htm

2http://www.intouch.org/magazine/content/topic/seeking_guidance_the_first_step_devotional

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Why They Hurt The Ones They Love

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Husband gave life to save wife from tornado — ‘He was my hero’

“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”

(In this case, for his wife!)

(John 15:13)

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Posted by on May 2, 2011 in According To His Word

 

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6 responses to “ABUSERS – GOD IS NOT LISTENING TO YOU!

  1. Maria de Fatima

    March 30, 2012 at 12:48 am

    Thanks for your blog. I just came across it. I was looking for the scriptures on spousal abuse and how this hinders answers to prayer. I’m glad I found it. This is precisely I was trying to convey.

    I would like to share the LINK. I will not copy or change anything. Just share the link so that others can read it.

    I too lived with the horror of seeing my mother abused on a daily basis. At age four I witnessed my father almost kill my mother. From that date on I lived in fear that at any moment he could kill her.

    He even used her death as a way to further abuse and control her. It was one of the most sickening experiences that I ever had.

     
    • ssofdv

      March 30, 2012 at 8:16 am

      Hello Maria de Fatima,

      You are very welcome! You have my permission to “share the LINK.”

      Abusers must understand that God is not pleased with them, and He will not bless their violence and abuse. God hates the violence that we do to one another. When their blessings stop flowing abusers blame the abused. Fact is – their actions cause the windows of heaven to close and stop the flow of grace.

      Yes, it is a horror to witness your mother’s abuse. The memories are still with me, and will always be. I can relate to your experience, for many times I thought my mother would die from the abuse as well. No child should have to suffer this way.

      Thank you for your comment, and please come back again.

      Peace

       
  2. Francisco Garcia

    June 7, 2015 at 10:38 pm

    Men are selfish vicious animals who will treat women however they please and show no remorse and they are not afraid of God’s anger towards them either. Abusive men will always win and nothing will ever change that. Women will always be beaten and killed and abusive will never be punished for what they do…these men are evil incarnate and of the devil!

     
    • ssofdv

      July 14, 2015 at 7:49 am

      Hello Francisco, and thank you for your comment.

       

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