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GOD HATES DIVORCE – And VIOLENCE! – Part 1

28 Mar

By Terry Loving

“Better is a dry morsel and quietness therewith, than an house full of feasting with strife.” Proverbs 17:1

“Men will find that their wrong conduct in their families springs from selfishness, which disregards the welfare and happiness of others, when opposed to their own passions and fancies. It is wearisome to God to hear people justify themselves in wicked practices. Those who think God can be a friend to sin, affront him, and deceive themselves. The scoffers said, Where is the God of judgement? but the day of the Lord will come.” 1

“The LORD tests the righteous and the wicked, And the one who loves violence His soul hates.” (Psalm 11:5)

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Often times, it is the violence and abuse that leads to divorce. One commits violence, one may divorce because of it. God hates divorce – God hates violence – who committed the greater sin? Sin is sin – but who offends God the most in this situation?

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Ultimately, the abused must make a decision, stay or leave. Pastoral advice concerning domestic violence varies, however, abused women are often counseled to remain in the home – endure the abuse – submit more – learn to cook better – don’t set him off – and accept the abuse as the Will of God. This of course will never be proven in the Word of God – therefore, this teaching is the will of man. God will “test” the righteous, but never will he tempt us to sin. Violence is sin.

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Further, this erroneous spiritual advice sheds light on scriptural contractions – not on God’s part – but that of man. Jesus gave sight to the blind – healed the sick – raised the dead – defended the poor – strengthened the weak – and most of all – died on the cross for all while we were yet “sinners.” Christ could have informed a Samaritan woman that His race didn’t associate with her kind – in fact; the Jews intensely hated the Samaritans. He knew that she was a lost soul, and He had great concern for her immortal well-being. He asked her for a drink to commence the discourse, and set her free from her sins. Does this sound like a Savior who would sanction violence and abuse against women – more so, those who He desired to save?

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The Bible is often misquoted to suggest that God has given husbands free reign over their wives. Man often turns the beautiful, Divine institution of marriage into a prison whereby men are the cruel wardens – supposedly – blessed by God to rule with tyranny. In reality, this fallacy stems from human error, not Biblical mandates. Familial and societal mind conditioning also play a very important part in the misconception that women are inferior to men in the sight of God.

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Wives are joint heirs with their husbands – positioned in Christ – to receive the manifold blessings and spiritual inheritance promised by God. Listening to the wrong spiritual advice however, leaves one with the impression that God only cares about the well-being and “supremacy” of men – who He has given the right to treat their loved ones any way they see fit. This notion is straight from the pits of hell. Why would Jesus heal the wounded, then give men permission to use violence and abuse against their wives – who would eventually become the wounded? He didn’t.

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Yes, God established a spiritual hierarchy of leadership – God – Christ – man –woman and children. However, Christian men especially, tend to be ignorant of the spiritual umbrella of submission. Meaning, submission does not apply only to the wife. But that is a topic for another time. In the meantime if you desire, you can read my other post on “submission” here – http://spiritual-side-of-domestic-violence.org/id27.html.

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Back to the violence – God hates it! And the Bible has plenty to say concerning violent men. Even though I will refer to “men” in this post, the hatred of violence applies to violent women as well. God hates violence no matter who is dishing it out. However, the Bible speaks more of the violence of men, who are considered to be in the same class as the “ungodly.” Even if a man claims to be of Christ, his violent actions are that of lawlessness. One cannot claim to be a Christian and violent at the same time.

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“The LORD tests the righteous and the wicked, And the one who loves violence His soul hates.” (NASB)

“The LORD trieth the righteous: but the wicked and him that loveth violence his soul hateth.” (KJV)

How can God sanction violence against women, when the Word says His very “soul hateth him that loveth violence?” To the core of His being, God hates violence and those who are violent. Hot tempered men stir up dissensions, start fights, and love to quarrel. Proverbs 22:4 warns us to make no friendship, not to associate with, or show ourselves friendly with hot tempered men. This warning should be taken to heart when desiring a mate. I ignored my ex-husband’s hot temper before marriage, for it was always directed at others. It was just a matter of time before his verbal lava spewed in my direction.

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At this point, I realize the need to break up this subject into separate parts. Part Two will address more of the violence; MALACHAI 2:16; and wrestling with the decision to divorce an abuser.

GOD IS NOT A RESPECTER OF PERSONS

GOD HATES DIVORCE – And VIOLENCE! – Part 2

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http://www.spiritual-side-of-domestic-violence.org

1http://bible.cc/malachi/2-16.htm

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