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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – IS SILENCE GOLDEN?

28 Feb


By Terry Loving

“Silence is golden, as her father used to say when she used to fly into tempers and wanted to say nasty things to everybody within range.” [1923 A. Huxley Antic Hay xx.] 1

Oh, don’t it hurt deep inside
To see someone do something’ to her?
Oh, don’t it pain to see someone cry?
Oh especially when someone is her

Silence is golden
But my eyes’ still see
Silence is golden, golden
But my eyes still see

A talkin’ is cheap, people follow like sheep
Even though there is nowhere to go
How could she tell he deceived her so well
Pity she’ll be the last one to know

Silence is golden
But my eyes’ still see
Silence is golden, golden
But my eyes still see

How many times did she fall for his line?
Should I tell her or should I keep cool?
And if I tried I know she’ll say I lied
Mind your business, don’t hurt her, you fool

Silence is golden
But my eyes’ still see
Silence is golden, golden
But my eyes still see

But my eyes still see 2

There is an old adage – saying, proverb, motto – that “Silence is golden.” It basically means that there are times in which silence has its merit, and should be exercised wisely. Ecclesiastes 3:7 states there is, “A time to be silent and a time to speak.” Where domestic violence is concerned, silence IS NOT golden. The abused – the church – society – and our own families have been silent much too long. It is time to SPEAK!

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS NOT A PRIVATE MATTER!

It is a CRIMINAL OFFENSE

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WOMEN WHO BROKE THE SILENCE – AND SURVIVED – IT IS POSSIBLE


“It starts with screams and must never end in silence.”

“I experienced real fear – the type where you shake from head to foot for fear of dying, being disfigured for life or being disabled. And yet we had separated and I had reported him to the police. If he isn’t supervised, I wonder what offenses he will commit next and who his next victim will be. These keys symbolise the flat where I can sleep safely now and have been able to start a new life.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074742734/in/set-72157610604063276/

“He left me for dead like a piece of rubbish. I want him to be punished. Not prosecuting them only encourages them to carry on. Despite everything, I loved my husband and that made me suffer.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3073907579/in/set-72157610604063276/

“Today I am waiting for the trial so that he can be judged and imprisoned. He says he is sorry and wants me to come back. There is no way that is going to happen.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074742560/in/set-72157610604063276/

“I need to feel safe from predators. Sometimes I feel scared… lost… so tired and weary. But I know I need a new love, kindness, affection, sharing, being happy again.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074742800/in/set-72157610604063276/

“After the divorce and after he had been sentenced for violence and death threats, I turned the page and put it all behind me. I have been able to rebuild a trusting relationship with a man I had known for a long time – he was the one for me. There is always hope. There is a life after this hell.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3073907937/in/set-72157610604063276/

“For six years, day after day, he would hit me. He split my head open, broke my nose, burnt my arm with a cigarette. I ran away to Spain with only my daughter under my arm and my papers.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074742946/in/set-72157610604063276/

“Today I drift from shelter to shelter while he sits comfortably at home.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074743002/in/set-72157610604063276/

“I decided to take my life into my own hands and with the help of doctors, social workers, lawyers and the shelter for women, where I was in very good company, I regained my self-confidence. Now I express my feelings through my painting.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3073908185/in/set-72157610604063276/

“Even in desperate situations, the child’s interests must be safeguarded. It is important to guarantee the right of the child to a normal school-life.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074743198/in/set-72157610604063276/

“We got married because we were in love. Some time later, he started locking me in the house and hitting me. He raped me and forced me to have sexual relations which I did not agree to.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/councilofeurope/3074743374/in/set-72157610604063276/

SILENCE IS A BATTERER’S BEST FRIEND

IT’S TIME TO FIND A WAY OUT!

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“SIN BY SILENCE”


1 http://www.answers.com/topic/silence-is-golden

2 http://www.answers.com/topic/silence-is-golden-tremeloes-song

SILENCE IS GOLDEN (song)

Performed by: The Tremeloes
Written by: B Crewe; B Gaudio

Credits: Crewe, B (Songwriter); Gaudio, B (Songwriter); SONGS OF WINDSWEPT PACIFIC (Publisher)

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“Domestic violence cases are a priority for prosecutors because they know where abuse can lead…”

“It’s not domestic violence prosecution, it’s homicide prevention…”

http://www.heraldnet.com/article/20110220/NEWS01/702209959

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The Danger Assessment

The Danger Assessment helps to determine the level of danger an abused woman has of being killed by her intimate partner. It is free and available to the public. Using the Danger Assessment requires the weighted scoring and interpretation that is provided after completing the training. The Danger Assessment is available in a variety of languages.

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http://www.spiritual-side-of-domestic-violence.org

BREAK THE SILENCE!

No portion of this web site may be copied, edited, or used in any form without prior permission.

© Spiritual Side of Domestic Violence Org., 2009
All rights reserved.


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