“T.I. ‘sick and … tired’ of being in prison.”

19 Nov
T.I. vs. T.I.P.

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By Terry Loving

“In a statement posted on his official website, T.I., whose real name is Clifford Harris, talks about his regrets over his actions and bemoans the fact that he did not have a responsible father in his life.”1

T.I. – my young brother, I am not writing to knock you, but encourage you and all of the T.I’s of the world.

First, drop the “I grew up without a father sob story.” So did my siblings and I, and neither of us have ever been in trouble with the law. We grew up in North Philly, a place to find trouble – looking for it or not. I had four brothers (two deceased – one murdered).


And get this – I was always jealous of my younger siblings for they had our father living with them. It was no picnic for them – he was an alcoholic, and did nothing to take care of any of his children. In fact, several of us as adults took him in and put up with a lot of heartache and foolishness. Having a father in your life isn’t always the rosy picture we imagine it to be.


We knew our father, but we didn’t learn much from him on a positive note. However, we certainly learned many things not to do. Too many times we focus on what could or should have been, and miss out on what we do have control over – and changing our lives. If I had allowed myself to lament over not having a positive father figure in my life, I would spend my time feeling sorry for myself. I lived with a mother that betrayed me, but I still refuse to spend my life in self-pity.


When we understand right from wrong, we are responsible for making better decisions. You and other young Black males have been incarcerated long enough to understand that way of life leads nowhere. Too many of you think that possessing weapons, drugs, and rebelling against God and good parents is your right. Our liberties as Americans are taken for granted – you do the crime, you pay. No one took your freedom, you gave it away.


And as far as “I’d have been better off doing a 5-10 year bid one time than going in time and time again for days, weeks and months for the last 15 years of my life.” – Jail is jail! You would not have been “better off.”  Being “better off” means never have gone to jail in the first place. You don’t have to keep doing the things you do, and keep getting the same results. The results won’t change – ever! They just get worst.


Here’s another thing, you stated. “I found my manhood in the trap and in prison systems.” Well there you go! Perhaps you should trade in your prison manhood for a new and improved virility. If you need a good place to start, read the Book of Proverbs, and allow the Word of God to dwell richly in you.


Don’t let Satan keep whispering in your ear. He lies! He steals! He kills! He destroys!

Being a “real” man is not about going to prison and “learning” from thugs and murderers and the like. They don’t have a clue, and that is why they are where they are. You don’t have to live the life you live, it is your choice. Even if your father was in your life, who is to say that he learned enough from his father to teach you how a “real” man should live? You want to know a “Real Man?” Look to Jesus.

I will pray for you and all of mankind to come to the saving Grace of our Lord Jesus Christ. You can’t change yourself.


“I know, O LORD, that a man’s way is not in himself, Nor is it in a man who walks to direct his steps.”  (Jeremiah 10:23)
“In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight.”  (Proverbs 3:6)

“For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out, “Abba! Father!”

(Romans 8:15)


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3 responses to ““T.I. ‘sick and … tired’ of being in prison.”

  1. Shakir

    February 19, 2011 at 10:16 am

    A solution to all of the brothers in prison.

    Build think tanks. get together and learn, read, about our history master it through study learn about History in general and master it. than sit down and discuss things. discuss where you went wrong discuss what you can do to help the next generation. discuss how to stimulate the next generation of black males and how to initiate them in to manhood. They cant imprison a mind if you dont let them. thats exactly what they did to TI they imprisoned his mind. before you get offended. did you read all that i have written in this post first? be honest with yourself. Now your family is out there with a whole lot of money but your not there with them. because somebody effectively imprisoned your mind. Question if they didny imprison your mind than how did you ened up back in prison again. brothers build think tanks in prison read train your mind. one must master himself to a degree before he can lead others. the media the industry has made us slave for to long. we may no longer be physically slaves but mentally mmany of us are still chattel. Many of us are emancipated yes but liberated we are not. We must educate before liberation is possible and i dont mean education by a system that was built to destroy us and to miseducate us. read theodore cross naim akbar van sertima breaking the chains of phycological slavery. start there. Get educated brother.

    • ssofdv

      February 19, 2011 at 10:17 pm

      “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7

      Hello Shakir,

      Thanks for stopping by, and sharing your thoughts on this topic. It is very sad to see so many of our Black men/youth in prison. Today, prison is a badge of honor, and a way of life that too many of our people choose. Even our women are incarcerated at an alarming rate. Once the merry-go-round starts spinning, it is difficult to get off until it comes to a full stop.

      God offers us Hope through His Son – Jesus Christ – but when Hope is rejected, there is no hope. Our world is in shambles because of SIN. We can clean the outside of the cup, but the inside will still be unclean. Jesus was addressing the Pharisees in Matthew 23:26, however, this scripture should apply to everyone concerning inward purity.

      “So the great concern of all men should be, inward purity; that their hearts be purified by faith in the blood of Christ, and sprinkled from an evil conscience by the same; that principles of grace and holiness be formed in them by the Spirit of God; and then their outward lives and conversations being influenced thereby, will be honourable and agreeable to their professions. Otherwise, an external reformation, or an outward show of holiness, and bare pretensions to it, without internal grace, will never be of any avail in the sight of God.”

  2. Shakir

    February 19, 2011 at 10:31 am

    I understand that you did that documentary to save your butt. as a part of community service. you want to be of real service to the bigger community. use your money and build black history book store in five locations in that same hood that you grew up in. if your wife can run a nail buisness than you can open a few book stores. and hire some of the brothers to work in the stores. I dont know how much money you have. What I do know is that you can use what you have to effect real change. I respect that you have tried to change. You can not continue to hold on to a way or a system of doing things that has proven to be disfuctional and exspect success from it brother.


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